Which is more important for your identity..How you were born, or what you have become?

Question

Which factors best decribes..the role you were born as..or the one you made for yourself?

What is the most important infulence in who you are now..

How much do childhood influences (problemns and advatages) effect your adult life

Answer 1

I was born to two teens, my father went to prison right before I was born, I met him when I was 9. My mother does drugs and alcohol and has all my life. The way I see it is, who I am today, a mother, wife and hard worker is most important. I have always felt that I will never allow myself to be like my parents and I would never allow my children to feel the grief I have felt most of my life. So who I am today, is what means the most to me.

Answer 2

I was born to upper middle-class parents, only child, very conservative enviroment, in Germany.

Now I live in the Netherlands, with one child, married for the 2nd time, in a rather liberal enviroment, middle-class - and while I think, that my childhood haves some influence on what kind of person I am today, I changed a lot during the last years, due to experiences I made. The most important experience - well, there are many, but I think, that my 1st very abusive marriage taught me how to fight, how to fall and how to stand up again, it taught me not to take things for granted and it taught me not to judge on people for not being rich.
Being an immigrant in another country is also a very important experience for me, to see, how my daughter grows up with completely different traditions and values than I grew up with, is very interesting. Immigration is a challenge that makes you stronger and gives you more self-confidence, at least, that was the effect for me.

Answer 3

For me, what I have become is more important. Although I believe in fate, I do believe in control over what I do and the decisions I make.

Most important influence would be my mother.

I think the childhood influence have a biggest effect in my life. My beliefs and values are from what I've learned and experienced when I was child from like 3 years old to my high school age.

Answer 4

I think it's what you have become, I have to be my own best influence now since I am an adult. As for things that happened in your childhood: we just had this discussion, a very good friend of mine had terrible parents, he could use that as an excuse to be a bad parent himself but he happens to be one of the best Fathers I have had the pleasure of meeting. I think a lot of people use their childhoods as an excuse for everything that goes wrong for them in their adult life. I am not speaking of people that were abused sexually . I think that greatly affects your life as you grow into an adult.

Answer 5

I think its what you've become. In certain circumstances that are hard to overcome those circumstances create drive to become a better person altogether. Sometimes when we have a tough up bringing we create our own families such as our friends. Child hood influences do affect us in certain areas of our lives but when it affects us negatively sometimes we just need to overcome it and rise above it. It makes u a tougher person and your better able to deal with whatever life throws your way. I influence myself and when I need someone to help me out I call a friend.

Answer 6

I think it takes knowing where you have been to get where you are going.

Example i your life was crappy as a child then the experiences that you had that made you feel that way you try to avoid at all cost to keep from going back to something you already know. So it is your experiences that make you a better person usually.

Answer 7

~ Kraljica...Kat-ica...

~ Q#1: Identity: What I have become... it's the legacy you leave after your gone (for the sake of most of us), however, in my case, it is what I have done for my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ... the gifts I have blessed Him with.

~ Q#2: Roles: Factors: The ones I have made for myself.

~ Q#3: Influence: Jesus Christ is the most important influence in who I am.

~ Q#4: Made me stronger... helped me to have better discernment in people.

Answer 8

one of the best things about America is that you do not have to be born affluent any poor baby cab grow up to be his queen. Childhood advantages gave me standards and childhood problems may me strong and resiliant

Answer 9

I'm confused by your answer because what you have become/made for yourself is heavily influenced by what you were born with. They can't be separated.

Answer 10

the one I made for myself. My parents raised me to be honest, to understand and value money, to know that I make myself what I am, no one hands it to me and it doesn't just fall into place.