When it comes to gays?

Question

Do believe they are:
1: Born gay.
2: Born nothing but conditioned to be whatever sexuality they are.
3: Choose to be gay.
4: A mix of any of them.

I personally believe 4. I think some people are born gay and the homosexuality can be detected from an early age. I also think it can happen at any time in life because of changes in the persons life or developments in the mind. I also think some people do choose. I realize that VERY few do this but I think some people choose it to get attention and rebel. (I know someone who is like this)

I'm not gay I'm just asking because I got in an argument with this kid in English today because he said nobody can truly be gay they just choose to do; because the bible says so.
(cracks me up how arrogant some people are)

Answer 1

People are born gay but choose whether to be open & honest about it, choose to live a closeted life, or choose to lie to themselves by choosing to attempt leading a straight life (such as Mark Foley & Ted Haggard).

Even the ultra conservative president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary has said that scientific research "points to some level of biological causation" for homosexuality.

Answer 2

1 and 2

Answer 3

4

Answer 4

I have alot of friends/family that are gay so i have some expierience with such things. I think that people who are gay (in most cases) are born that way. It could be genetics, who knows? But most of the people i know, knew from VERY early on that they were different. Sometimes they didn't know why, but they knew. I don't think it is something you can be brought up to beleive, something to be instilled into a child. You either are, or you are not. Also in my expierience it is not something that suddenly switches on, it is something that is present all through life.

In general i suppose i would agree with you. The majority of people who are genuinely homosexual, i would say it could be genetics, and would have nothing to do with thier upbringing. In other cases, i am sure there are other people who may have been brought up in such an environment, so it is what they cling too, and yes there are others that just do it to rebel, and be different.

Answer 5

I cannot think of any reason on God's green earth why anyone would choose to be gay. Whether it's nature or nurture still isn't entirely clear, but experience seems to show that it's almost entirely the way we're born.

Also, you need to make a distinction between sexuality and sexual acts. You can act gay or straight, for whatever reason, but that doesn't change what you are inside, who you are attracted to.

And thanks for honestly asking instead of judging and assuming.

Answer 6

You are a very thoughtful individual! If you're referring to high school (or younger) English class, that goes double. You are articulate and refuse to split, or to see things in only black and white. You could kick some serious tail in a nature/nurture debate about any trait. Personally I think I am 1. Possibly 2, because homozygotic twin studies show that genes cannot be everything (read: one identical twin can be gay and the other not). Thanks for asking and for being such a great ally!

Answer 7

Well im a lesbian. I do not believe that i was born one. My take on this issue is that no one was born anything. We were all born innocent babies with no yearning or sexual desire for ANY one. So pretty much, we were all born asexual. Then we came into our sexuality with age, personal experiences and experimentation. I dated males from junior high throughout high school. Enjoyed the attention BUT couldnt really connect mentally and emotionally with them. So i began to experiment with other women and found myself to be happy with someone of the same sex. I do not think there's a mysterious gay gene. I do not think we just wake up one morning and say HEY I CHOOSE TO BE GAY. I think its a lifestyle preference that we grow into. Many will relate & many will disagree....

Answer 8

My voice is especially deep, somewhat. evidence that this question is stereotypical! regardless of the undeniable fact that, any guy with a intense-pitched voice might thank their mothers for the trait. I examine male toddlers in wombs being taken care of as a distant places merchandise because of the gender distinction. i won't be able to keep in mind how, however the mummy's physique tries changing the gender, etc. (analyze this on condition that my given counsel won't be fullyyt best.)

Answer 9

I think some people get a little confused about this. Here's the heads up..

There are heterosexuals and there are homosexuals. They are born this way.

However, there are heterosexuals who go against their nature to have sex with the same gender (this does not make them gay), and there are homosexuals who go against their nature to have sex with the opposite gender (this does not make them straight). These are ACTS, not IDENTITIES. These people sometimes refer to themselves as "bisexual", though it is not an identity like hetero or homo sexualities (and they get very defensive when you tell them this because society has given up on believing that there is such things as lust and temptation). Deviating from their natural hetero or homo sexual identity does not make a third identity appear, it is merely a corruption of their natural identity. And when, say, a heterosexual man, who has been having sex with men, chooses to return to his natural heterosexual life, he has not then become "ex-gay" because he was never gay to begin with. Being gay or straight is vastly much more than just sex acts. It is an entire mental, psychological, emotional, AND sexual issue. It is part of the entire make up of a person.

Thanks for being a cool guy and sticking up for us (and the truth).
-Rev. Jim Cunningham
GayChristianSurvivors.com


PS and obviously the people giving me thumbs down are ignorant homophobes.

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Answer 10

People are born LGBT or straight, and science backs us up on this one. Your inborn, natural sexual orientation does not change during life, and is not a "choice," or a result of "conditioning." So my answer, and science's answer, is A.

Please don't confuse sexual behavior with natural orientation. Men can have sex in prison, and people can be sent to cruel, dehumanizing "ex-gay" camps. Neither changes the underlying natural sexual orientation.

No one "chooses" to be gay. Some people take longer than others to realize their true orientation (either way).