My husbad wants to file for divorce - out of the blue - claiming that he didn't love me anymore. He brainwashed me for 3 months making me believe that I was a horrible person and that I caused all of this. Now, turns out, he was having an affair, and still is. I am obviously heartbroken - seeing as I thought things were great (we just had a baby 11 months ago) and were planning for more children. ANyway, after I caught him, I asked him to leave because it is too painful to watch him have this affair - he isn't hiding it very well now. I feel taht it is constant emotional abuse - and I want to know if I can get a restraining order based on this - to get him out of the house until he files for divorce. I know I should just file, but I am not emotionally strong enough or ready to do that. I don't really want him out - for some reason I still love him - but I need him out in order to begin the healing process for myself. Help!
2007-03-12 08:54:37 · 9 answers · asked by k8tk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello.there well.well.acording the way you.are ready for file for divorce but you.not sure for now what can you do about.it now then go ahead and do it.dont waistn your time now honey the better the faster don beg for something is not worthed at all..because the more you beg the more he.s ignoring you .honey,all the ways he can.you need some body that will be with you.and your kid..not a criplest.knokle head..like him even know you love him.but .now all is up to you mam.
2007-03-12 09:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by lover trainerboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for the baby. But you have to be strong and do the right thing for the baby. Get him out of the house anyway you have to. If he yells or threatens you you will have to call the police and have it on record that you are afraid for yourself and your child, then a court may give you a restraining order. I'm almost positive you cannot just go to court and get one without there ever being a record of police going to your home and you being afraid of him. I hope he realizes that he is going to have to pay spousal support and child support. If I were you I would find the strength somewhere and file for divorce myself, don't give him the power of telling you, after he's hurt you so bad, don't give him the power of being in control of this situation. Take the control from him and give him want he claims to want. Call his bluff so to speak! Besides a strong women is an attractive women. Find your strength somewhere, in your babies eyes, find it somewhere and do something about it. I truly wish you good luck.
2007-03-12 09:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmm welll with u no longer probably being a minor, i'm no longer probably optimistic however the thank you to get restraining orders, whilst it comprises kinfolk, in lots of cases u can visit ur kinfolk courtroom construction! If that don't artwork document a police document! there are procedures to do multiple issues, mothers and dads no longer to point any1 don't have the skill to annoy any1 the the element of distruction. additionally do u see a psychiatrist? attempt to forget approximately with reference to the failings they do, discover some1 to speak to, no longer something or noone is worth hurting urself over!!
2016-11-24 22:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only for harrasing or stalking, but is hard to prove since you live in the same house and he is not going to your work place or friends house or making any threats.
The best thing that you can do is to ask him to leave or find a place on your own. Go back home or to a friends house so you can heal.
Good luck
2007-03-12 09:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's physically abusing you are verbally threaten you, you won't be able to get a restraining other. If he want leave then you'll need to get the law involved. I don't know NY laws but you just can't put someone out, you have to get them evicted.
2007-03-12 09:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend $500 on a private detective to follow him around for two days.
Have pictures taken of him and the girlfriend. Show them to him and tell him that he has to move out or you are going to use those photos to your advantage.
2007-03-12 09:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have my sympathy and thoughts are with you. Please get legal advise and leave this guy now you and your baby is the most important thing now and you should make sure that you both are safe. Good luck
2007-03-12 09:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by pizzaboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love yourself, get your rear end to court, to- freaking- day! Then move yourself out.
No restraining order, won't happen.
2007-03-16 07:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer but I'm guessing no!. Here's an idea leave.
2007-03-12 09:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋