i accidently said somesomethings about my stepfather and now i have ruined my familys happiness and now were entering family therapy. i also like my best friend. both things are stressing me out. the first for obvious reasons, and the second because she has a boyfriend and i feel awfull for liking her. i want it to stop, but i cant. i have her next period in class and when she see's how i look, shes gonna ask whats wrong. every time i see her, it feels like i have a new problem to tell her. i like her a lot and i know she woudl listento me and try to help me out, but i feel awful for her having to hear me ***** and whine. i am trying to think of a way to tel her how i feel about me telling her all my ****, but i cant think of anything, and if she sees me like this, she's gonna fret over me, and she has enough worrys. i really care about her and i need help to say something so she dosnt fret over me. help?
2007-03-12 08:48:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You could always say, "Nothing. It's just something that I have to work out on my own. Thanks for asking, though."
or something along those lines. If she pushes further, you can also say something like ... "Don't worry about it. If I get in over my head, you'll be the first person I'll talk to. Thanks again." or something like that.
Hope it helps. Bummers about the family thing. Good luck.
PS Don't feel awful for liking your best friend. It only reinforces the fact that there's something really good about her that makes having her as a best friend something good. Just don't act on it unless she's single.
2007-03-15 12:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by cardpackrat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your best friend what is wrong. Appreciate her for being your best friend. At the same time, try to date other girls if you can (why is your avatar bald - it's like responding to a little old man!) so you at least have other people to start liking as much.
Sorry about the family happiness thing - whatever you said about your stepfather had to be pretty powerful - and true, I hope - so perhaps it's a good thing that the family is working out their feelings about it.
2007-03-18 12:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you but it sounds to me like you blame anything that happens on yourself and you do not allow any chance for happy moments in your life.
Listen, If you said something about your stepdaughter...and you felt bad about it, then say you are sorry and mean it...no therapy needed, if she takes it great, if she doesn't; well that is her choice...
As for you best friend, you are playing with fire...do not look for things to go wrong in your life so you can tell her...she will hear you out because she feels sorry for you, not admiration, not infatuation...nothing...that is the last feeling you want to have for a friend. Do not take me wrong, if things don't go well, then tell her, but if they are doing great, you should also tell her...nothing is wrong with you liking he, just don't acto on the feeling, enjoy the tingling sensation you get when you talk to her and she leaves with a smile on her face and another one on yours.... you must have boundaries... and you should be fine...
2007-03-20 13:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you say she'll always fret over you just like your doing for her fretting over her feelings that just what friends do... its part of the realtionship... if you want to worry about something "worry about the moon falling down on you" everything else will work out its self... its not just you who has the problem so don't blame your self blame the fact that the devil is tormenting you and your letting him get away with it ... so stop cause you are better than that and the moon hasn't fell yet so don't worry.
2007-03-20 11:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Americasgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, stop blaming yourself for sending your family into therapy, you aren't powerful enough to do such a thing. it's never just one thing that makes someone seek professional help. even if they're blaming it on you, it's only to relieve their own guilt of the problems. secondly, you can tell her how you feel to get it off your chest, but be prepared for her to pull back and get a little "weird" or even defensive. or you can keep it inside or try to get over her.
2007-03-18 19:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell you like her
2007-03-20 13:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by rat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋