she does not allow me to enter and starts crying in pain if i try to insert. Is there something wrong with her? I asked her to see a doc but she is not willing. Or does she just want to avoid sex!!
2007-03-12 08:47:59 · 20 answers · asked by Man2man 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
She may have a condition where the muscles in the vaginal canal cramp, making it difficult for you to have sex together. She needs to see a doctor if that is the case.
However, if you suspect she might not yet want to have sex, you are probably right - in which case, don't rush her.
2007-03-12 08:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she has a constant fear about sex. May be she is a beginner. I think she has had a shock in the past and due to that fear, she rejects you.
There can be another reason that you enter her too early. Try to spend more time in foreplay, use innovative methods, try something new..or a new place.
Of all the suggestions I would say you should talk to her about it and tell her that you are asking the questions like a friend and will not get offended by the answers.
The ultimate medicine is not in the hands of the doctor but its in the heart of the partner.
2007-03-12 08:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure you are getting her good and ready for you. Start with a finger or two and see if she opens or if it is a block down there. If it is she may have a case of vaginismus. Tell her she is not alone and that she needs to see her doctor to talk about this. It will not go away by itself. There are people who never consummated a marriage because of just this problem. Do not be cruel to her though. Make sure you apporach her in a loving way.
2007-03-12 08:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lady A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be too rough with her, but it sounds more like she's causing pain to herself by being so tense. Maybe she just wants to avoid sex, and is shirking the subject. Maybe you should dump her. If she's not even willing to see a doctor, she is not worth the time and frustration it would take you.
2007-03-12 11:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by filia_san 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something wrong with HER?
Did you consider that you might need to stoke the fire a little more? Use lube? Relax her? Why does it have to be that something is wrong with HER? They aren't gummy sacks you just jump on.
You are going to think I am being a joker, or crass, whatever.. but I mean this to all men who have this problem. Get a small dildo, and enter into your own backside... just once. Just to see what it feel like to have someone invade your body if you aren't ready.
2007-03-12 08:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she may not be ready for sex... if its her first time yes it will hurt and she may know this but just not ready. dont rush her. try your finger and be very gentle give her oral untill she gets really wet. She may not be given enough foreplay or time to become naturally lubricated first. be as gentle as possible and when she says stop... do so. she may not want to se a doc because she may be afraid to. offer to go with her. Tell her the first time will hurt a tiny bit but it dont last long. and she may be a bit sore the next time but her body will adjust. be patient with her.
2007-03-12 09:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by misspookett 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her hymen maight not be broken already. That maight be causing the pain, when her hymen breaks completly the pain should diminish little by little until she feels no pain at all, this maight happen the 3 time she has sex. What u can do is lubricate ur penis and her vagina very well, make sure u use loads of lubricant, thins maight help.
2007-03-12 08:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be ready for sex, and this is her way of telling you. Don't push the issue. She will let you know when she is ready for sex.
Otherwise, she needs to learn how to relax, because if she is tense it is going to hurt when you try to penetrate her. Lots of foreplay can help with this, and will also help her get lubricated. Be patient, and let her tell you when she is ready to be penetrated.
2007-03-12 09:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like she isn't willing to help out the situation, i know as a female i have experienced the pain but wanting my partner trumps the pain i felt, maybe you could try a little foreplay, otherwise clymadia the std causes pain during sexual intercourse.
2007-03-12 08:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just too big(wide) did you ever think about that? Or maybe you should ask her if she is trying to avoid having sex with you
2007-03-12 08:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mizz Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋