I have been in a relationship with a man for 7 years and 9 months. We have been engaged for 7 months. We have our up and down. We solve our problems but, these problems are repetitious..........problems like Lying, cheating, distrust, nonunderstanting............Do we need therapy or end this relationship?
2007-03-12 08:46:49 · 7 answers · asked by ora s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to end it. Why would you waste the time and energy to try and change someone, when you could just move on and find someone that you don't have to change? Stop it, break up with him, and find someone who is more like you.
2007-03-12 09:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to seek counseling and help and do not end this relationship just yet... See if there is any hope first before giving up on it and on each other. I do recommend pre-marrital counseling before anyone gets married as this is helpful and kinda prepares you for marriage. It lets you know if you are really ready for marriage or not. The sad part is that most people do not know what to expect out of marriage before marrying so it is hard on them from the start but with pre marriage counseling it helps prepare and let you know somewhat of what to look forward to in marriage. If counseling and therapy does not work then break it off and do not marry this man.
2007-03-12 09:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Therapy may get you to the root of this behaviour but will not necessarily cure it.
Therapy may also help you to decide whether to continue, and help you avoid repeating the mistake of choosing the same man. After all, seven years is a long time to discover these problems, and would you take the same length of time (second time round) to pick up on this behaviour?
Distrust, lying and cheating are relationship poison. I can't see much future with a person who behaves like this. Only you can answer this - is he worth it?
2007-03-12 09:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by tagette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End the relationship. I wish we had gone to premarital counseling. I might have found out that he is a habitual liar, a momma's boy and that he would never get over his drugs, alcohol and suicidal tendencies. In my ex's words...had he told me of his addictions, he knew I'd never have married him.
2007-03-12 10:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-07 18:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without honesty it's doomed..sorry
2007-03-12 08:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by nhvjhghjg j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its time to call it a day on this one, if their is all this going on, their is no way of going back, best to end it now before it gets totally out of hand
2007-03-12 08:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both.
2007-03-12 08:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋