I have this friend that is a recovered alcoholic. I love him very much but he became so judgmental since he joint AA, every time I have a drink he make comments like “are you sure you want that second glass of chardonnay? “ or “don you think you already had enough?” I don’t have a drinking problem, I never get wasted and never drink more than a glass of wine during the week, so I don’t think I should be judge. What can I do, I want to be supportive of him and his struggle but at the same time I want to tell him to go to hell.
2007-03-12 08:45:44 · 7 answers · asked by rickyhunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I understand that this may be very frusrating, but first thing is that you should realize that if your friend didn't love or care about you, he wouldn't be on your back like that. He is just trying, the only way he knows, how to make sure you don't go down the same path he did. Now, you should tell him, tactfully, how you feel. Let him know that you do appreciate his concern, but at this time, you feel as though you know how to monitor your alcohol intake.
2007-03-12 08:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by en.williams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is probably putting you down as a natural defense to the way he is feeling about himself. I'm not saying this is right, but he is probably lashing out at you because he is still having a hard time trying to control himself, and it would be easier to put someone else down than himself. He may be taking his issues out on you without realizing it. Maybe you should distance your self a little when you plan to drink, or just come out and ask him why he is so negative towards you when you drink. Communication may be the key to this whole situation.
2007-03-12 08:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by ddp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him gently, that you appreciate his concern and thatyou really appreciate his care for you and that he's a real friend, but also explain him, that everybody reacts different to alcoholic beverages and that you don't feel, that you're in danger.
When he goes to your nerves, remind yourself, that he isn't doing this to harass you, but just doesn't want you to go through the same hell he has been. He's well meaning and haves all reason to be proud on himself for overcoming the addiction, and he's probably overjoyed about this, too.
Tell him in a good moment, how proud you are on him for overcoming alcoholism.
2007-03-12 08:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Chevrolet*Blazer*Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are around the friend of yours that has the drinking problem you should drink only soda and water whenever you are around him.
2007-03-12 08:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid drinking around him and find something else to do!! Be a role-model!!
2007-03-12 08:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend, you should not drink in his presence.
It is cruel behavior.
If you love him, you should prove it by abstaining from liquor.
2007-03-12 08:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him listen to some minor threat.
he'll sober up.
2007-03-12 09:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Atlas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋