hi, please help me please?

Question

my husband doesnt talk to me much in the public on vacation.he talks with me at home we hav a graet sex life at home but not outside the home means we dont have sex on vacations. he satres other bikni women on beach and he plays with our 2 yrs old child but he doesnt talk to me. i m good looking . he gets angry on everything i say he stares his sis very badly. it hurts me. i had talked to him about this matter but he abused me verbally and said that he will never go out with me. i m confused what should i do and wats going on?

Answer 1

So hard to say because from what you have described, it is soooo easy to read between the lines in so many ways. Either he is totally using you, and is only "married" to you in the privacy of your home, or you are doing something to embarrass or anger him in public that he is not telling you about. Either way, I think you should be careful how you approach this problem. It sounds like there is an awful lot going on that is not being talked about. You may need to put your b*tch hat on and learn how to assert yourself (without totally ticking him off) - GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I think you should re think your marriage honestly. I know this is easier said than done, but why live like this? You deserve much better. You also mentioned that you are good looking. That is great, but good looking or not, your husband took vows to love you and you deserve his respect. Either demand this or tell him he can go kick it on a permanent vacation with his "beach babes."

On the other hand, you need to think about your child too. What kind of example is he setting? Your child does not need to get into a simular relationship as you because of the type of roll model his/her father is.

Answer 3

You need to leave him - why do I say that? Because he abused you verbally and that is not acceptable. If that's the way he treats you - no matter what the issue is - you should questions his love, his respect, and the potential problems that could lay ahead. If leaving him is not what you want to do then at least seek some counseling - if he's not willing to go then go for yourself and have a professional help you with this. Abuse is abuse in any form and nobody deserves to be treated that way under no circumstances.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like he has a social anxiety disorder. He feels nervous and highly stressed away from home. I suggest not taking vacations to public places. Stay close to home and find fun activities nearby. I am the same way, but to a lesser extent. I don't feel comfortable on beaches, and going to concerts and such makes me so anxious I sometimes can't stand it. That's just the way it is, and it's not a knock on my wife in any way. However, if she confronted me and tried to make me do things I felt anxious about, I might well feel inadequate for her and get angry about it.

Answer 5

Carrie, Carrie, Carrie..... You said you where pretty.. right...Girl get dress and go have some fun with your girlfriends. ( I mean get dress... low cut shirt, fitted clothes. make-up the works). When you do go to the beach, wear a 2 pieces bikki too. Let other men see you too. It works both ways. Start taking care of yourself. Work out to make yourself look good and other will see it too. It would grab his attention. On the other hand. Tell him how do you think it would feel if MEN look at you the way he looks at other women. He would then maybe think twice. Good luck

Answer 6

Sounds like your husband is the one with the problem.
You have to get to the root of the problem. Also, remember
that you are "getting old together" and he is probably in denial, but when he looks at you on vacation....he sees what he THINKS he is missing, but at home he is content because he knows what he has.

Just for the record......MOST abusive relationships start with emotional & verbal abuse so keep a check on how he treats you.......REALLY!!!

Answer 7

I think you should kick his but to the curb. I think he is doing something it public tha he may not want you to know about and also may want others to think you are only on a friendly basis so the wrong person wpn't see him loving you in public. I think he make love to you in private just for his out stimulation. On the otther hand, what do i know, you can only be the judge of the, you can tell if he is giving you foreplay, making love to you , or if he's just satisfying his needs. Is he passionately kissing you, is he, whispering sweet nothings in your ear? Only you know the real deal here hun. Good luck. I apologize if my anwer sound harsh. I'm just writing my feelings.

Answer 8

Dear Carrie, I am so sorry.
I personally think that if he ever abused you, then you should get out of that relationship. Take your child with you, because he/she is not safe with someone abusive. Tell someone that you are being abused and get your self somewhere safe. Go stay with a friend. You shouldn't let anyone talk advantage of you. You deserve better and I want to help you. if you ever need a friend, just say so. ([e-mail]) Please contact me. i hope everything turns out OK.
Cowgirl**

Answer 9

You said he's your husband and then you said he told you he would never go out with you. What kind of marriage is this? Husbands and wives don't have this kind of relationship especially with a child involved. Get your acts together and be good parents and a loving married couple!

Answer 10

First of all get a grip. This guy sounds terribly abusive. You really need professional help. It sounds to me like he is very controlling and if you say anything to him he's going to yell at you. You sound afraid of him. If you are or if he's every put his hands on you LEAVE HIM QUICKLY! There are alot of resourses out there to help women who want to leave. Good luck