My boyfriend of 14 years left us ( me and the kids). About 2 and a half years ago we had broken up. During that time he met another woman. They dated for 1 and a half years. He cheated on her with me a few times during their time together. She knew about it. Well a year ago he broke up with her and came back to me and the kids. It has been a year, and we even talked about marriage. He left me 2 months ago to go back to her. What kind of woman would take a man back after he had dumped you to go back to his family? And then he left his family again. She took him back no questions asked. Would you have taken him back?
2007-03-12 08:37:44 · 18 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I took him back, but we have kids together and so much history. I really felt that he belonged to me.
2007-03-12 08:47:16 · update #1
a woman that's in love, a woman who has no self worth, who doesn't see the future with a man like this. maybe she took him back to prove she could to boost her own low self worth. she took him because she knew u loved him, and its like a competition with her. what u got with him is a man that when things don't go his way he leaves and goes elsewhere, not exactly someone u could trust at all. alot of character flaws and bad traits. personally i would not have taken him back at all, because with men like this he will keep going back and forth and be unable to make up his mind, determined on if his needs and expectations are always getting met, and his ego being stroked.
2007-03-12 08:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This dude has got the best of both worlds. He's playing the two of you like a rock guitar. You are asking a question about a woman that would take a man back after he left her?
Well sister you are that woman so answer your own question.
2007-03-12 15:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... that's quite the story.
If it were me, I probably would of done the same thing as you did. You have children with him, a history...I get that !!
But now, he's back with her again, after being back with you for 1 year.... makes me wonder if he's been cheating with her this whole time (just like he did with you when he was her).
Honestly, I would not take him back this time (nor continue to have sex with him either)
He's having his way with the both of you and you're letting him do it.... STOP IT !!
Enough is enough now... please don't be made a fool of any longer.
2007-03-12 16:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by M.O. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going Thru..... I did the same thing. Me and my husband had some problems, we split up and he went back to his ex-wife. (why I don't know?) he says for the kids. but I still don't believe him. cause two are almost grown. My so called husband telling everyone he is un-happy with her and wants his wife back. He stayed with her for 3mths. She was also married. She got married a month after she found out we did. Now she is going thru a divorce. After her husband found out about them. She told my husband you where suppose to divorce her too. He said no. I love my wife.So we ended up talking and decide to go thru counseling for us to try to make our marriage work. I was not A saint to him.. In the long run. Its working for us. But I still have it in the back of my mind. Will he go back again. There is no real answer just FAITH.
2007-03-12 16:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, talk about having the best of both of worlds. Can't be mad @ a guy/guys like this, they are only doing what you let them do. You need to ask yourself how long you want to keep putting up with this type of man.
2007-03-12 15:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not take him back. He will only leave again and the next time it may be for good.
2007-03-12 15:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First your saying she is wrong for taking him back when you took him back in the first place...If you dont stop this now, for the rest of your life you will go back and forth until it stops.
2007-03-12 15:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took him back. If he will cheat with you he will cheat on you. Also, he walked out on you twice, why does it matter if she takes him back? You should let her have him. Don't raise your children in a revolving door relationship. It isn't healthy. Move on with your life.
2007-03-12 15:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror. You took him back. What's wrong with her doing the same thing you did?
2007-03-12 15:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would the man stop if both women keep taking him back? If one or both stop offering a place to "lay" then he would have to stop going back and forth.
Both you and this other woman need to find yourselves your own man and stop sharing this one.
2007-03-12 15:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋