Why... Just a thought .. why?

Question

Some women conceive so soon after their marriages... and for some its a long struggle to conceive. y is conceiving and fertility such a struggle? For some its a cakewalk... and for some its wishing, hoping and praying. Am feeling so down.. We r trying for a year now. why cant all the women in the world conceive whenever they want and be blessed with the gift of a child?

Answer 1

I know what you mean. It took me almost 4 years to conceive my first, with the help of IVF, but she's an amazing kid and she's now a big sister too...

Infertility is hard, but you can take advantage of the hardship and learn how to help others who are in your position.

Answer 2

Aww... I'm sure that's hard to deal with at times. I know what you mean though, I have several relatives that had honeymoon babies. My husband and I didn't get preggo with our first until we had been married 3yrs. Of course we weren't necessarily trying to conceive either. I think God just knows when each couple is ready and when they're not. When we had our first, it was awesome because it seemed like the most perfect time. Also, not every woman is as regular as other women. My sisters in law can track when their periods should start down to the minute, and I was always so irregular. Have you been to a fertility doctor to find out what the problem is? And I'm sure a year seems like forever, but it's still within normal time for alot of couples who are trying. I'm not sure you'd be considered to have fertility problems yet. Keep your chin up, and keep trying. It's important to stay relaxed and non-stressed while trying, so go take a nice bubble bath! Good luck in the future, I'm sure things will work out :)

Answer 3

Remember this: everything happends for a reason! If you are not able to concieve, consider the children of addicts, who are in the adoption process waiting for a parent. Consider that baby who is unwanted and unloved. A Baby is a gift from God, and some women take that for granted. Just be there for your partner. Don't blame eachother. Here is an inspiring (and true) story:
My mother was told at age 20 that she would never have children. She took this news and believed it. She was 37 when her belly got round, she went to the doctor and he told her, "I don't know how you did it, but here you are 5 months pregnant with a healthy baby!" She gave birth to me 4 months later. She again became pregnant with another girl. How wonderful is that? See, through God all things are possible! God bless, friend.

Answer 4

i feel the same way i have been trying for a year and 1/2 or more and its soo hard im so upset some times and happy other days i would love to know the answer to this question but i dont think there is one out there i know that i f you let go and forget thats how alot of women become pregnant and some want to plan and playing might be the reason why so many issues women have stressing planing geting mad..maybe we wont ever know but good luck alot of women are in your boat even me....

Answer 5

Hey, i feel your pain. All that i can say is that it isn't what "we" want. It's what "He" wants. We are on God's time, in his hands and on his schedule. If everyone got whatever they wanted in the world, whenever they wanted, we'd be in a lot of trouble. I read this book called "What on Earth am I Here For" by Pastor Rick Warren. Try to read it and you'll see what i'm talking about. God has a plan for everyone's life. And don't worry, some people are more fortunate than others when it comes to conceiving, but when it is your time, I am certain that God will take care of everything for you. Keep your head up! :)

Answer 6

I know how you feel. My husband and I were married and trying for 9 years and along came our son. When my son was 3 we were pregnant again and on cloud nine.I lost that baby at 12 weeks. I have been trying again with clomid but my age is starting to factor in and also I have PCOS. When you have to fight for every child you have they are even more precious to you. I know it can seem very unfair sometimes.God bless you and I hope you get what you want.

Answer 7

Maybe it helps us that it took a while to conceive to realize and appreciate the little miracle we have more. It took me about 2 years. Also your body knows when it is ready.

Answer 8

i really dont know what to say to u, but i do understand what u r saying. me and my hubby concieved right after we got married, i neva had issues with getting preg. it was actually and issue 2 stop it lol. i got my tubes tied afta my second. but have u thought of other options at all? i know alot of women dont like 2 hear that but i found that i hated being preg both times. i would have loved 4 sumbody else 2 have had that baby! lol...maybe adoption would b the answer 4 u. hopefully u will get what u want because everybody does deserve happiness....

Answer 9

Maybe you just werent meant to have a baby. Maybe you are one that is supposed to adopt and love a child that doesnt have a mommy or daddy. You shouldnt get mad at those who can get pregnant...i did after 2 months and thats just the way it is. Its not fair for you to feel jealousy or hatrad toward those of us who are blessed.
Try fertility clinics or fertility drugs...invetro... there are tons of things out there to help but all in all its up to the big guy upstairs.

Answer 10

ive asked myself this alot, ....we've been trying for 16 months ....ugh, it's tiring, i know... my sister stopped her birth control, and pregnant in less than 2 weeks. my sister-in-law? 2 months. i just keep in the back of my head, that fate is the ruler, and it's just not time for us yet. Everyone who tries so hard for a baby, are going to be great, loving parents.. cause that's how bad they want it. And good things come to those who wait, and that's how i stay positive. :)