i'm the only one in my family that doesn't have children. i don't want to wait like 5 to 10 years then decide to have a child because my child will not be around his/her cousins ages. what is making me change my mind- when this is what i wanted until now? how do i deal with the feelings? i'm too scared to take a pregnancy test because i kinda know the results and i'm still running from the fact that pregnancy is very likely. i know that everything happens for a reason, i don't believe in abortions, but i am not ready for this. any advice
2007-03-12 08:29:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Think & speak positive dear friend! You don't want to curse yourself.
Fear is not from God.
2Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Your words have power!
You are blessed dear friend. Feel blessed and thank the Lord if you're pregnant. Speak positive & only good things. Speak life not death. If we only knew the power of our words.
Enjoy your pregnancy! Smile & be happy!
Prov 18:21
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Prov 21:23
23 Whoever guards his mouth and tongue
Keeps his soul from troubles.
Psalm127:3
3 Children are a gift from the Lord;
they are a reward from him.
2007-03-12 11:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are very natural. Even for parents that strugle with infertility for years and want a child more than anything, there is still a shock factor that comes with a positive pregnancy test as the reality sets in that your life is changing in a major way. No amount of planning can prepare you for the emotional shock of this monumental event. However, especially for those that want children, the shock begins to wear off as they begin to think about all the positive things about having a child, and as they realize this is a good thing, something they hoped for, and that they can handle it. You should take a pregnancy test because the sooner you know "for sure" the sooner you can begin to deal with the reality, and also begin to get prenatal care. Look around for some moms groups or maybe some counselorw who can help you address your concerns and alleviate your fears, the more support and information you can get, the more prepared and relaxed you will begin to feel. Pregnancy doesn't always happen exactly when we think it should, but look at the positives, stay optimistic, and move forward to prepare yourself for whatever will be best for you and your baby. Good luck!!
2007-03-12 08:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by mandaj17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out I was prego when I was 18 and single I had just dumped the baby's daddy and was dating another man that I wsn't too crazy about but thought I walked on water. I was so upset that I wished on more thna one occasion that I had had cancer. (Yeah I know I was nutty!) I had NEVER wanted children or to get married but I didn't believe in abortion. I ended up having the baby and love him to death and he is the greatest thing and can brighten my day when no one else can. However, being a parent can be very very tough expecially if it is a child you don't really want in the first place. At least take a test and see if you are prego soyou can at least get prenatal care and some good advice. If you still feel like you do not want the child there are thousands of happy families out there dying to adopt and would love and nurture your child. Only you can make that decision and on that one I went to God and prayed and it turned out beautifully. Good Luck! Wrtie me if you need to talk.
2007-03-12 08:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by sexyafterdark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get the test over with. You may be surprised that seeing the test results can change your mind. If you are pregnant, and still are feeling like you're not ready for it, there are counselors for that. They will talk to you and find out why you think you're not ready. If this is what you wanted, then deep down you still want it. Pregnancy is just a scary thing. I promise that you will make it over this "bump" in the road, and with each passing day of your pregnancy, you will love your baby more and more, and you'll be more sure of what you want. I promise that it will all work out the way God intends it to. Good luck and God bless!
2007-03-12 08:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I did the exact same thing got pregnant on purpose and then when I found out that I was actually pregnant I flipped. I think it was b/c I didn't think I could actually make a baby...I know it sounds stupid but reality doesn't set in until it's to late. But yeah I was n the same boat got pregnant flipped and did not believe in abortion....I think all it is is nerves...and a bunch of "what if's" now I am a 21 year old single mom who is completly inlove with her 2 1/2 year old son. Believe me when I tell you this...no matter if your ready now or not it's coming and when you hear your baby's heart beat for the 1st time and feel it kick or move for the 1st time you will fall deeper and deeper inlove...and it is the best feeling in this world...and then when you hold him/her for the 1st time you will be the happiest person in the world. If your not ready now you will definatly be happy then b/c a child is someone who will love you forever and knowing that is the best feeling in the world....So please get excited tell everone your good news and then love your baby with all of your ability b/c all the love you give will be returned to you in a very special one of a kind way!!!! Good luck!!!!
2007-03-12 08:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are indeed pregnant, its probably a realm of hormones that is making you crazy over this. I remember being scared and excited with my first only because it was my first---at least that's what I kept telling myself. Now I'm 38+wks with number 2 and still will find myself on somedays scared about being a new mom again, and will my daughter like the new baby, and as tired as I am now with one child, how in the world am I going to do it with two? And on.... and on.... and on. You've already said that you believe everything happens for a reason, I feel that way too. You just need to remember that, remember you can't change what's already happened, and if you are indeed pregnant, you're life is going to change forever----but you will be surprised at how wonderful the change can be! I wouldn't trade my daughter or this unborn baby for the world! Probably hormones and anxiety--- you can't deal with it until you know for sure. Good luck!
2007-03-12 08:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, I felt the same way early in my pregnancy. I worried about my body, my life changing and all sorts of other things. And I really wanted this child, I waited 7 yrs for it after all.
I saw my baby move on the ultrasound last week though, and all doubts vanished. There's just something about seeing your child move that makes you go - this will be worth it.
Hang in there, do the test and make sure. If you wanted the baby before you got pregnant, you'll still want it in a few weeks when you get used to the idea and start to adjust. Chances are it's just your hormones driving you nuts... in time it will pass.
2007-03-12 08:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by elainevdb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is completely normal. Having a baby is a big step and it makes sense that you would feel overwhelmed. It's very possible that if you were to wait another 5 to ten years you would still feel that way.
Relax, do something you enjoy. Sit in a tub with some candles and soft music. Go to the park. Get a massage.....start looking at baby clothes, blankets, and furniture, and thinking of your favorite baby names. This is an exciting time.
(Oh yea, and take a pregnancy test!!!!)
2007-03-12 09:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you took the test right now and the results were not pregnant you might be bummed out.
You can't know how you feel until you know for sure.
Take the test. Take care of your body until you know what you are going to do.
Thank the women before you that you have choices. You have to do what is best for YOU in your situation, for where you are and where you want to go. A baby isn't going to hold you back, not if you don't let it. Things are harder as a parent but they aren't impossible. Don't let anyone tell you it will ruin your life. Don't let anyone make the choice for you though either.
2007-03-12 08:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by choice478 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've ALWAYS assumed I'd have kids. When I had a miscarriage, I didn't grieve or lose it, but I did feel really depressed about it. Then 7 of my friends got pregnant and I was SO jealous. I thought I'd be thrilled when I got pregnant again, but I'm having so many doubts and feeling like the timing is all wrong-- too soon.
My best advice is to just be honest with your feelings, don't feel guilty about them, and try to see the upside to being pregnant right now. How great to be a younger mom! I'll be 43 when this baby is 20, and there are all kinds of benefits to that.
God's timing is always right on time, even when it doesn't feel like it to us! You'll be fine... what you're experiencing is more than normal.
2007-03-12 08:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by sublimekindalife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women feel that way. If you are pregnant, think of all the positive things and start making the changes in your life that being a mom requires.
You've got at least 8 months to get ready for the best thing that will ever happen to you :-)
2007-03-12 08:35:37 · answer #11 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋