Why don't some people have consequences?

Question

My ex has left me and our kids twice. The woman he was dating when we were apart took him back. We were together for 14 years. He lives with his mother now, he is 41. The thing is no one makes him pay for the things that he does to others. I know I am guilty of it also. But he makes decisions that hurt others. He has no cares in the world. He left his family, ex girlfriend took him back, and lives with his mother rent free. He does not want to hear the pain he has caused me again. I also can not believe she took him back after he had just left his family again. Basiclly he just said I am not into you anymore. Then he leaves me to deal with it. He said I cannot be responsible for your emotions. He acts like he has no cares in the world. Why don't some people ever have consequences?

Answer 1

You need to ensure that he has consequences when he hurts you and your children. Things that are out of your control cannot be helped. If momma wants to take him back, or if the other woman wants to take him back there is nothing you can do. Your main concern should be for you and your kids. Short of setting him on fire while he sleeps there is nothing you can do. Just make sure you take care of you in this situation. It should be faily easy for you to say goodbye to all this drama. He is toxic and you should just set him free.

Answer 2

I know how you feel, my ex walked out after almost 38 years. He left for my youngest sister. He lies and tells the kids that they are just friends, I am crazy. Well, my detective proofed he was lying. But my children don't care about that they say what's the difference. He lies to stay on disability , so he does not work. He has lied and got a large settlement for talking the drug fin fin. Has not worked since 1990. Is living it up while I work everyday. I lost my family because this has torn the family apart, I am still working like a dog . An this lying dog has been playing and is still playing with money in the bank. He got his settlement after the divorce (just days afterwards) So, he didn't have pay me back for any medical bills I had paid over the years. Thank God he did not get the spousal support or any of my retirement. But he has had no consequences. I know they say what goes around comes around, but it sure does take a long time. He parties while I work. When does it turn around? Let me know how you can speed up the process.

Answer 3

He doesn't have a conscience. There are consequences to ever action. He is now living with his mom at 41, that must make him feel manly. His children will grow up to have no respect for him. He will have to pay child support. He will have to pay alimony. If he has no living expenses, the more he will have to give you and the children.

Don't let him come back! That should have been the consequence the first time. It sounds like his girlfriend deserves him, let her have him.

Answer 4

Everyone has consequences to their actions. His is just taking longer to pay for. His mother will die someday and he won't have momma to pay for his living. His girlfriend will eventually be dealt a bad hand by him because that's the kind of person he is and she will dump him(or divorce him if she's that dumb). And by you knowing what he is, won't comfort him when his world falls apart because you will see him for what he is, a user of other people. That's when he will get what he deserves. It sometimes takes a while, but those type people do pay eventually and it's usually a higher price to pay than what the victims he left behind have had to.

Answer 5

Um, you answered your own question within the question. You said YOU don't present him with any consequences. So, he has no consequeneces because nobody, including you, is giving him any. Why aren't you? He should at least be paying for his kids, and there are government agencies chomping at the bit to help you collect child support if you will only use them. Your kids need the money. Your ex needs to be taught a lesson. It's win-win.

Answer 6

Are you divorced? Divorcing? Child support is a pretty sobering consequence. If you aren't divorcing....do it...don't take him back a third time, you will be adding to his irresponsibility. Get on with your life. What a dead-beat. He will end up paying in the end. His children will understand one day and believe me, he will pay some consequences then.

Answer 7

He does have consequences. When the kids learn the truth about what went down between the two of you. Trust me he will pay with their hatred towards him. Nobody really gets away with everything

Sometimes justice is delayed not denied

Answer 8

Rest assured, everything he does WILL come back to him. Karma is funny that way. It rarely returns to the person from the place it originally started, but, it WILL return with a greater impact. Same goes for the other woman who chose to be involved with someone who is/was married.

Allow time and karma to take care of them. Concentrate on you and your children. Move forward with your life, do not allow him to stop you from doing that.

Good Luck

P.S. My father did the SAME thing to my family, neither me or my sister speak with him, and his own mother will not allow his, umm...what do I call her...mmm... WITCH in her house because of all the damage they caused....KARMA!!

Answer 9

everyone has consequences it's just the matter if when they will have to face him. You may not see them because your holding on to him but let him go and you just might begin to see his world fall apart but sometimes it can take a long time.

Answer 10

It may seem like that right now because it's not happening fast enough for you but one of these days his little merry go round that he's on is gonna come to a halt because what goes around comes around.