Will I love the baby??

Question

Please only answer if you really know what I am talking about..I am 4 months pregnant and these last 4 months have been so rough. I have horrible "all day" sickness. I have been in the ER several times and can barely function most days. The problem is now I feel like I am upset with the baby. I don't want to hold something against it that isn't its fault. But I feel like this is ruining my life. I want to love it but this pregnancy has been so bad I think all the time I wish I wasn't pregnant. Has anyone else had this feeling and will it go away?? I feel like a horrible person for having such feelings and I would never do anything to jeopordize the baby but pregnancy is getting the best of me. I just need to know this is a normal thing and it will go away....

Answer 1

My secodn pregnancy was really, REALLY bad. I spent half of it on bedrest. When you look at your baby, you will forget. I know it seems so very unlikely but it's teh truth. There is NO love in this world like a mother's unconditional love for her newborn child.

Answer 2

Honestly hun, everything you have gone through during your pregnancy will be worth it... the second you look at your baby you will forget all the bad and be so thankful!! It is normal to be unsure of things during your pregnancy because your body is going through so much right now, things you probably didn't even expect! Your hormones are all over the place, you cannot do what you could before, and the list continues... but it is the most remarkable thing in the world when you look into the eyes of the baby you gave life to, and were with the second the became exsistant! You are going to be ok.... I wish you the best, and Congratz... it will get better I promise!! You are not horrible, and you shouldn't be so hard on yourself, just relax and enjoy what you can... it will be ok!! The fact that you are asking already makes you a great mother!!

Answer 3

I believe that mostly every woman that is pregnant, they are emotional, they get angry and upset very easily, and because your going through much more than just hormonal changes and body changes. the morning sickness should go aweay soon enough. I know you'll love your child. Once the baby is here, you'll forget about everything you went through. Going into labor will be much worse then being sick, and when other moms have a child and have to go through labor they don't not love their children. Your probably just stressed out right now, and tired and hormonal, everything should pass and you'll be fine. If after the baby is born though and you still feel shitty, or anything then you might have the baby blues, or some kind of depression, if that happens seek medical attention right away. Most new moms go through this.
Wish you all the best now and in the future.

Answer 4

My sister had a rectal fistula when she got pregnant. She couldn't walk, sit or hardly move. She had to take two hot baths a day just to funtion. She walked funny so everyone asked her what was wrong. She was in more pain than I have ever seen a human in. And the worst part was that she could barely take any medicine for fear of hurting the baby. She was so angry and swore she would never be pregnant again - she just hated it.
Eight weeks ago she had a boy and I have never seen someone love a baby more. Don't worry hon, the feelings you have right now are toward the pregnancy, not your baby. You won't even remember this the first time you see his/her little face.

Answer 5

Pregnancy can be a miserable thing.... I promise, when you see your baby for the first time, everything from the pregnancy will be forgotten. Not to mention you'll feel so much better when the baby's out!!! The first trimester is rough, and the last month or two are rough. You're about to enter the easiest part of the pregnancy. Try to enjoy the little things and remember that it's only nine months of your life.

Answer 6

Hello Joy, hang in there...........

I think you are suffering because your body reactions are stronger than the average although all women go through hell at one point of pregnancy or another but it's just a few more months......and remember not to get pregnant again!!

If you are hating the baby you are taking it on the wrong person........who you should hate is your partner who made you pregnant and is letting you handle all the real drama!!

I think you are feeling hateful towards the baby because you are relating the pregnancy with the hospital and the problems you are undergoing..........you could check if there are any couselors in your area that can help you get your anger out in a positive way that won't hurt either you or the baby!!

I wish you all the best and hopefuly is just the initial part of your pregnancy that usually is the most crazy part until the giving of birth!!!

You should talk to your baby and talk to him/her in normal voice they start to recognize your voice while still in the womb and listen to music as well.........if your partner is not supportive enough you can always talk to your baby and he/she will start that special bond earlier than most people speculate!!

Good luck!!

Answer 7

Believe me, you will love that baby when it is born!! I went through the same thing with my first, I was very young (17), and I had a bad time, but my son is the light of my life, and was from the moment I first saw him, still covered in blood!

Think yourself lucky too, I have had a terrible second pregnancy, but for different reasons, I have been on bed-rest with a high risk pregnancy, I nearly lost my baby girl when I was 16 weeks. I went into hospital bleeding heavily and they were sure I was miscarrying, but they managed to stop the contractions and save my baby. I'm 31 weeks now, and she is big and growing well. I love this baby so much, and I haven't even seen her yet! Even though this pregnancy has been 100 times worse than th first, I am already over protective of my girl!!

Good luck, and congrats!

Answer 8

My mother-in-law had a long, hard labor with my husband's sister, and when the baby was born, she didn't even want to hold her. She was stressed from being in labor, and part of her blamed the baby for that. It doesn't mean that she didn't love her, and they are still very close now that she is grown.

I think it's perfectly normal to get tired of being pregnant. I didn't have the problems that you are having, but I'm still really ready to have this baby. Hopefully you'll start feeling better, and be able to enjoy some of your pregnancy. You should feel your little one moving in there soon, and you may start to feel more of a connection to the baby then.

Good luck!

Answer 9

My best friend felt like you for half of her pregnancy. She had if rough but the second she had her little boy in her arms she forgot every bad thing that happened during her pregnancy.

A baby is a whole different kind of love. Everything will get better after you give birth.

Good luck and Best wishes for your future.

Answer 10

I do think that you will end up loving this child more than anything else you've ever loved in your life.

However, if the circumstances surrounding this pregnancy are less than desirable (no father, no skills, no money, no support) than you might just want to give it up for adoption. No need to keep a child you'll end up resenting, it would have a much better life with people who actually want it and can properly care for it.

But like I said, I think that by the time the baby is born (probably much sooner), you will start to bond. A lot of first time mothers are sort of ambivalent and that's normal.

Answer 11

I was constantly sick for the first several months of my pregnancy too. I know how bad it sucks! Trust me it will get better at some point. The first time you hold your baby in your arms it will all be worth it. Just try to make the best of it and keep in mind what a marvelous gift the life growing inside you is!