Depressed and scared...?

Question

I am 24 yrs old, and i have a 4 yr old. I was always a single mom and have always had severe depression. I have been with my boyfriend 9 mons and i found out i'm 6-7 weeks pregnant, when i found out with my son, i was afraid but i was sure and somewhere inside of me happy. i am happy with this baby but were not finanically stable and yes we should have thought about that before but whats done is done. we now i feel so alone, i dont feel like i have alot of support and because im so moody and miserable im starting to not like my boyfriend so much, it like all of a sudden im realizing hes too needy, i dont know if its cause im so crabby or depressed or is this how im really feeling... i just wish i had some support and friends to talk to about how im feeling without saying i told u so...

Answer 1

Speak to you doctor. Ask if there is a single mothers support group in you area. You need to talk to others in your same situation. Hang in there. Remember your 4 year old needs mommy to be strong and loves you unconditionally.

Answer 2

I think all pregnant women go through their ups and downs in one way or another.

My husband and I were just married in August 2006, and now we're expecting our first baby August 2007. He's 22 and I'm 19. We are also not all that financially stable right now. I'm still in nursing school, and he was out of work over the last 2 months. I've also always had problems with depression and let me tell ya, I have been feeling terrible because of the difficult situation we've been in recently.

I know it's hard, but you have to learn to be positive. Once I really did my best to look at the good thigns in my life, I have been so much happier. My hubby found a new, better job, and things are really looking up. It takes time, but things will get better. I felt very alone and felt like there was no hope for the first few months of my pregnancy, but once I stopped stressing so much, things really did get better.

As far as finding your bf needy, well, I'm betting it's just hormones... lol. Trust me, everything my husband does annoys me these days. He's complains too much when he's sick, he snores, everything drives me crazy. It will pass.

Just remember that being so upset isn't good for the baby, and that what babies really need is love, not money. Be the best mother you can be and thats all that matters.

Good luck and god bless.

Answer 3

I completely understand!I am 19 and have only been with my boyfriend 9 months also but I am 4 months pregnant. It was a total accident but we are trying to make the most of it. He already has 2 kids and we are definently not financially stable. Everyone blames me and says I coulda prevented it but they don't understand. It already happened I just need support not critizism. I have turned on my boyfriend alot lately. Everything he does irritates me and I question if I am with himcuz I love him or cuz its convenient. But with m y hormones running wild I don't wanna make a rash decision especially when no one is behind me...This pregnancy is making my depression 100 times worse. I know where you are coming from you just wanna stand up and tell the world to F*** O**!! But just wait it is bound to get better and there has to be one person you can turn to. Use them to help! Whether you rant and rave, cry or just sit and stare into space with them. Make them your pregnancy buddy. It will help 100%. You Are Not Alone!! Good Luck

Answer 4

I know what you're feeling. Ofcourse, I'm not pregnant, or a woman, but I have gonr though periods of depression. When you get like that, you'll feel hopeless and alone. But you have to remember to hang on and be strong. It helps to talk to someone, so if you want, go ahead and e-mail me. Just come to my profile page. I promise I'll write back every time. Good luck!

Answer 5

u can get through that situation with God's help! just ask Him and u'll see if u have faith in Him. dont be hard on ur boyfriend either. it's tough on him too and u dont want to end up alone in this situation right now. dont even think about abortion either coz u'll regret it. trust me on this one.

do smoething to brighten ur mood as well coz u'll start making others feel depressed around u too. soon enough, u'll drive them away. keep positive and start laughing a lot. it's also healthy for ur baby.

God Bless U so much

Answer 6

I feel for you, I was diagnosed with depression and later with bipolar. My boyfriend and I have been together for six years, and at times I felt like I didn't want to be with him. Things that I thought used to be cute... started to annoy me. I didn't look at all the positive... I pointed out the negative. I always thought it was him, and that I was the victim. I went to my doctor, he put me on an anti-depressant. After being on Prozac for a couple months I became very abusive to myself. I seriously didn't have a clue to what was wrong with me. It was like I was living outside of life. Then I was diagnosed with bipolar, and the meds they put me on has helped me. I can't imagine how my b/f lived with me and stayed with me. All I have to say is that you should go speak with your doctor. Be careful though, if he/she decideds to put you on an anti-depressant. Anti-depressants can have a reverse side affect than what it is prescribed for. Take care!!

Answer 7

Doubt can come at any time during the pregnancy. But i hear that once you hold that baby, it all goes away :) Good luck and we're all here for you if you need to talk... :)

Answer 8

Hey there hope this helps not sure where your at but they can give you a number that's in your area.
Good luck and keep smiling.
http://www.dcottawa.on.ca/

Answer 9

that suxs but be carefull fallow your heart wat ever you feel is the right thing!!!