help with mom.. anything helps?

Question

i have 2 older sisters making me the youngest. they are married and dont live with us so i feel like and only child sometimes but my parents never treat me like it. my mom still thinks im her little baby and cant do anything for myself. im am 15 in less than a year so i think she needs to let go a little. she wont let me do anything i want to do or let me go anywhere i want to go. i dont ask for big things, or go do terrible things. one day i am just going to snap at her but i want to talk to her before that happens. how can i tell her i dont want to be treated like a 6 year old anymore? i am really tired of all of it and want to be treated like the teenager i am. they call me their perfect angel,baby and how much they love me but when i try to talk to them all they do is yell. it feels like they hate me sometimes and my dad will yell at me for walking in my room crying. what should i say to them?

Answer 1

You are talking to a fifteen year old girl..Ill be sixteen soon, and I completely and totally can relate to you, and can really really understand what this is like. I was never into trouble, and yet when I asked for something sooo simple like going to the movies with a group of Girls my mom would say maybe next time or not tonight. I knew that this was because she was scared to let me go and do things on my own. She was worried because she knew that if I had a problem she couldnt be there to solve it for me, and the thing is that I really didnt need her to treat me live a five year old. I wasnt allowed to do simple things like walk the dog alone, spend the night at a friends house if my mom didnt know the parents well. My mother hated it when I talked oin the phone to boys, Im not alowed to have a myspace or just hang out liike other kids my age are. I felt sooo left out because my friends were out doing regular "teen" stuff while I couldnt. It was soooo annoying becuase i was like never ever in trouble or had given them a reason not to trust me, and
I didnt ask for big things either. ThenI would confront them about it nicely and YEP, then the yelling came, then I would go to my room, then get yelled @ for crying just like you. They say stop being such a drama queen. Even though I was very upset all the time. I felt like they just didnt care about me or about how much I wished I could do normal stuff other kids do. Then I posted a question just like this one here and diudnt get really any help with it ...just all the moms out there were like "she loves you, and thats why shes strict" But I really needed help. That is why Im telling you all of this, so that you knw that your not the only one. I think that moms and dads of teens are this way because our whole lives they have held our hands, and always have been able to control, then suddenly we turn 13 and everything changes, suddenly we dont want them to do that any more and we want to be independent, and even reject them completely. Here's some things to try:
1)start small....like the movies with some friends(id do just girls first)..on a friday. Show her that you can be completely responceable
2) Dont push it, like dont always ask to do stuff big...like week long trips or anything @ first...Just like a party that they know who the ppl are and that there will be noo drinking or anything.
3)DO NOT(whatever you do) Do not rebell against your parents, this makes them soo angry and they will never let you do anything
4)I had to realize how hard it was for her kid to grow up, and to let go..and still do like"mom-daughter things"..Then talk to her about the yelling thing..and about how mad u get when her and your dad do this.

TRUST me when I say that It will get better....Especially when u start high school...Your parents will get to a point when they realize that they cant treat yuou like a baby, and as they see you change and get older they will trust you more

Im sorry that this is soo long, but I hope that this helps you..and think of it this way...You probably have like 4 or five years left living @ home with "mommy and daddy" and that time will fly by..So keep ur chin up!.....Ive gotten through this and soo have many others..<3 stef.(good luck)

Answer 2

I went through the same thing, 2 older sisters married and living somewhere else. I never had much of an issue with my mother - mostly my father but NEVER about being treated like a 6 year old.
With my mother - the only thing that really upset me was, (especially in the summer) I would be outside playing and she would yell for me to come into the house. I would do as asked, after finding her I would ask "what did you want?"
She would say (this was in the 1950's and no remote control TV's) "could you turn the TV channel for me?" I would do as she asked, go out side and then get really mad because I felt she was being way too lazy. In the winter time, when this happened, I would turn the channel, go into my room, kick my dresser and cry.
My father always treated me like the boy he never had. My only issue with him was after I graduated high school. We had moved out-of-state (the day after graduation) into a really neat house. My mother was working, my father laid off and I was looking for work. Everytime I went from any room to the next - my father would be right behind me like a litte puppy dog. I got a job really fast and moved out because I just couldn't stand him following me all of the time.
My father passed in 1976 and my mother now lives with me - thank goodness for a remote...........................

Answer 3

Sit down with your parents and tell them what you have told us. DO NOT overreact and act like a 15 year old. Talk sensibly. Be calm, be rational. Let them see you are growing up. Parents have a tough time letting go when you start to grow up. Work with them and they will work with you. It's hard to see your baby turn into a young woman.

Answer 4

the best thing to do in this situation is be the calm one. while they are yelling and screaming just don't say anythin, don't do anythin just sit there and listen. then calmly share your complaints and when they started yellin again just be quiet and calm and then they end up lookin like and idiot screamin there head off while u sit there calmy. the best thing to do is give them no reaction then they will get over it and realize wat an idiot they r bein. about the baby thing just one day sit down calmly with ur mom an explain everything that been buggin u shell understand if u do it calmly and just tell her how u feel. this will work i promise!! if not u can beat me with a stick!!