My significant other moved back in about 6mos ago after loosing his job(great pay). We were in the process of reconsiliation this made the process quicker. In the begining he cooked, cleaned, took our kids to school ect. Slowly this progressed. About 2mos ago i bought him WOW (online game) now he is always on. I told him a couple weeks ago that this needed to change so now when i get home from work, he stops and we cook together and eat as a family.He still plays after sometimes till 3am) He says its a faise and it will pass. Weekend comes around and "seriously" he is on almost all day. Yesterday it was a beuitful day I told him I wanted us to all go out and do something. Well, we didn't. I don't know what to think or do. He still is not working (should he be?) The little time we spend together we watch a movie but don't talk much. I feel like i'm loosing sight of things and feel unloved. Should i be asking him 4 attention? Tell me what you think is fair to ask of him (serioulsy)
2007-03-12 08:18:20 · 15 answers · asked by Flaca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just for the record you never give a non-working person any type of computer games. You make them get out of the house and hit the pavement until they find gainful employment. You have to act decisively to get this situation handled. Your significant other needs you to be strong not weak. It is time to kick butt lady.
You have some drama to go through. First you have to realize you shot your own self in the foot by buying him computer games. Now you have to fight to get it changed. You have to get him to stop all online games. You have to understand he is not working and have no obligation like a job so he plays the games way into the wee hours of the night slowly but sure becoming addicted.
Your significant other has blown his routine and is now out of step with you, the family, and regular working people.
You tell him that you love him dearly but he will have to go if he can't act like a man and go out and get a job and contribute to the family. Let him know you feel used because he is taking advantage of the situation. Remind him of the fact you let him move in sooner because he lost his job. He repays your love and kindness with lack of actions and laziness. Don't hesitate to let him know you are losing respect for him. Give him a deadline to get his act together and start acting like a responsible adult.
Now is the time for tough love honey. Once again lovingly but firmly give him a kick in the pants to help him get his self-respect back.
2007-03-12 08:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bought the game, get rid of it. If you feel like he is spending to much time playing it put a block on your computer. Change the password so that he cant log on.
He should be working and helping you support your family. If he is living there and not contributing, Then why are you letting him do this?? You should be concerned that he is spending so much time playing a game instead of spending time with you and your family. Some times the on;y way to get them motivated is to use tough love. Give him the ultimatum to get a job or move out...
2007-03-12 08:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video games cn ruin a marriage...sit down with him and tell him he needs to get a job and get his life in order...He can have all the time to play the game when he gets home from work.. But hopefully he will be too tired to play once he gets home. Talking helps everything out..
2007-03-12 08:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is taking full advantage of the fact that you are working and providing him a place to live. It's almost as though you've become his mother and he is more then happy to let you. I would refuse to be with someone who played video games over getting a job - that's just lazy.
2007-03-12 08:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him to get a job. And while he claims to be looking, you do the same.......type up his resume and fax it out to prospective employers. If he isn't really looking, then at least you are and will help him get a job. Oh, and the next time you are cleaning, accidentally spill some bleach on that game or suck it up in the vacuum!
2007-03-12 08:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take that WOW game back. Instead of acting like the husband and father that he is, your husband is acting very childish and taking his responsibilities lightly. He needs to get away from that game and get a himself a job. Seriously, if I were you I would indeed take that WOW game back. You sound like his mother who is providing him with entertainment so he won't get bored.
2007-03-12 08:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, ha, you bought him WOW and expected him not to get addicted. You might as well have said, "Honey, I'm so happy you moved back home. Here's a bag of crack to celebrate. Enjoy!"
It's fair to ask him for what you want to ask him. Follow your instincts and be true to yourself. If he refuses, you hold the cards because you pay the internet bill. Threaten to cut it off if worse comes to worst.
2007-03-12 08:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should either be working or doing the household chores. When my husband doen't work he does all the house work and helps with the kids. I would sit down and let him know that you need help and some personal attention. If he is not willing to give you that kick his selfish, broke @$$ out.
2007-03-12 08:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
faise my butt. he has a sugar momma. just tring to do a bullet is his job. there is no reson to be playing a game that much. once and awhile is great but not everyday. I would tell hiom that he needs to go and get his things in order because he is holding you back.
2007-03-12 09:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely right to be worried. WoW has ruined many marriages and lives. Get through to him any way you can. That may include leaving him. Good luck and I hope for the best!
2007-03-12 08:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Robert San 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋