What rights does he have?

Question

Ok..im a little confused about something..My fiance was told by the girl he had messed around with before me that she was pregnant.He told her that he wanted a DNA test and that if the baby was his,she could put it on his health insurance and everything..he was willing to step up.Then after that,we dont hear from her.Then we get a phone call one day from her saying that his baby was born two weeks ago.The baby is now over a year old,she still has not gotten a DNA test, the baby does not have his last name,and he is NOT on the birth certificate.And now she is asking him to sign over his rights so the state will help her..We are a little confused here..What rights does he have in the first place if there was no DNA test and he is not on the birth certificate and the child does not have his last name.He has tried to be in the babys life,but she never returned calls and when she did, she would promise to let him see the baby, but never show.Anyone have any advice?? Please dont be rude.

She is also saying that its going to cost him like $800 bucks to sign over rights... anyone heard of any of this?

Answer 1

I can not believe he can sign over his rights and the state will not come after him for support. Sign nothing before a DNA test is done. Then he will be legally and financially responsible for his child but at least he will know it is his baby and will get visitation rights and maybe custody if he wants.

It shouldn't cost him anything to sign away his rights, she should pay for it.

Answer 2

You need a lawyer just to get the facts straight. Once that is done, you can consider what responsibilities he has. He is probably not the father. She would have let him see the baby if he was - but you can never know this unless you have the DNA test done so what is holding that up? You can require it to be done, since if there are any 'rights' to be signed over, they should be clearly decided by the results of that test.
It's all legal stuff; stop playing games. You're cooperating in her game of 'I'll give you hints that you are the father and by responding like the father, I'll 'prove' you're the father.' It doesn't work that way. If your boyfriend is the father, he will also have some legal responsiblities he should be prepared to assume. She wants SOMEONE to sign over some 'rights' in order to con the state into giving her money. That's not the only way to survive.

Answer 3

sweetie i understand i am someones "baby's mama" and i think she's a liar because if there was nothing to hide she would have call to inform him of the birth and would have no problem with the DNA test plus if he wants to be involved she should be proud of that fact she probably has trouble letting go or the real father screwed her over and she's looking for a "replacement" knowing he's a good man and he's not going to allow not knowing his child and that he'll step up to his responsibility's. some women are all about what a man can do for them and signing rights over isn't that much DNA testing is more

Answer 4

TONS OF RIGHTS!!! Where should I start?

First, why is he helping, when there is no DNA test to prove that he should - simply because he laid with her? NO WAY! Please note: She is not in a legal position to negotiate someone giving up their rights so that the state can help her. She may make a judge angry if that suggestion gets mentioned in a court case because it borders on 'milking the system'. It will be a shame for her if the baby is not his! The law may surprise her in a negative way.

If she cannot/refused to provide this, there is no tangible proof that he is the dad. He is being noble (as men who mess with women should be) but at the same time, the reason for her hesistation could be due to the baby being someone else's. Please note: the real father could have been present right in the room when she gave birth. You never know.

Women know who impregnate them in their hearts - we were built with this mechanism. The only time a woman is cloudy as to whose the daddy, is in the case of her having relations with more than one person within close proximity of the two or more sexual events, (same week - same day) or if she was gang raped. The latter is not the case here- or at least you didn't mention that.

The matter of the baby not having his last name or his name being on the birth certificate means absolutely nothing! It could be his without that.

Keep in mind: Any woman in their right mind, keeping it real with no game- who knows for a fact that a particular guy fathered her child has no problem getting the baby a paternity test, for this is something she looks forward to doing-proving fatherhood for two reasons: So that she has no real problems receiving support from the responsible male party, and so that her offspring will know who fathered them. Whether she receives resistance from him or not!

A paternity test is in order here which is what it called since the baby has been born. If there is hesistation,- not hearing from her, etc, he probably should give up his so-called fatherly duties immediately with no guilt.

You shouldn't worry too much unless she is taking advantage of him. He sound like he is in control, simply by his initial request for a test. You sound sharp and are probably his best friend as far as picking up the b/s****, she is giving him.

He should be forceful at all times until that paternity test is produced! The court system welcomes those inquiries and will protect his rights as well.

Since she is procrastinating, he should go to the court and file a petition for himself, seeking paternity and have it served to her before he tries to continue to be in the baby's life. (without any further hesistation- the child has been here a year already)

She will be forced to stop her missing in action games, and she will have to bring the baby to a doctor - court appointed, and have a blood test done with him as well.

This, and only this, my friend, will solve the issue and close it out. Either way: be supportive of him if it is his, or if its not, continue to enjoy each other without child concerns.

For men: DNA is the way, Paternity Test is the best!

Good Luck!

-This from a woman who bore no sons, and can't truthfully remember the last time she took up for the male gender.

Answer 5

Simply put, the baby has never been proven to be his, so he shouldnt have to sign anything. He needs to ask her who she is dealing with and call them, he should tell them that he is not sure that the baby is his and that he has asked for DNA testing but it has never been done. The will make sure that he is the father before he ever has to sign anything. It is very possible that someone else is the father but she cannot find him or something so she is trying to get around the system by using your fiance.

Answer 6

1st of he signs nothing over to anyone .he gets the DNA test done before anything can be done and with him not on the birth certificate she can not say that he has to pay anything at all . if there is no fathers name on it then she can not go after him for anything until the DNA testing is done . so go on with your lives and let things happen as they do . but if your guy really wants to know if that is his baby then let him push for the DNA test but only he can do that . and to sign anything over can coast some money but until you go and ask around no one can tell you just how much it is . best of luck to you both.

Answer 7

No, no, no, have him sign nothing. There are no rights at all. He is not on the birth certifcate and the baby doesn't have his name. That is not saying the baby isn't his but until their is a DNA test done, sign nothing. If she continues, talk to a lawyer and see if you can force her to get a DNA test. I am not even sure you could force her but it is worth a try because she is lying to you guys one way or another.

Answer 8

IF he doesn't want anything to do with the child sign the paper and never know the truth. But legally she would have to prove he is the babies dad before he should sign anything. But, she might not be willing to do that because he might not be the babies daddy she might not even know who is.IF he does he can get a lawyer or do the paperwork hisself and file a motion with the court to order her to do a paternity test, agree to vistitation, pay child support and then he can provide medical ins. for the baby. some cities have agency that will help people fill out the legal paperwork for free to make sure that is was done properly.

Answer 9

I don't know anything about the cost of him signing over rights. But as the father he has legal right to the child. If he wants to have visitation and such. He has every legal right to. He can have the courts legally insist on a DNA test and then petition for custody and the such. Don't let him just walk away without ever knowing. He could regret it for the rest of his life not knowing if he has a child somethere growing up without a father.

Answer 10

Advise him not to sign anything, until he gets the DNA test done. Have him bring her to court, if he's the father he has the right to be in his child's life... We should not shun a person, when they are willing to step up and do the right thing. Who are they hurting in the end, the child of course... Don't give up...fight for the kids sake