2007-03-12 08:13:34 · 37 answers · asked by memyslf&I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(3/19/2007) Thanks for everyones comments I wanted to see what other ppl would do...this is what I did....
I told him that he needed to stop and turned around and told my friend about it. Found out that she was suspicous of the jerk already and I told her that I would like to be friends with her but I would have to steer clear of their home from now on. I wanted to make sure that she knew that our friendship meant more to me then anything else.
Thanks to all.
2007-03-19 04:09:29 · update #1
Among all the good answers from folks with true character and morals, unfortunately I found real "turkey" answers.
Banging was suggested - what a vulgar way to express himself/herself.
The only way this man should get banged is with a cast iron frying pan over his head. By the way, this is no friend since he does not even think highly of your spouse/friend/fiancee.
**remember: it has to cast iron**
2007-03-19 06:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a cold put down when you sense he's hitting on you. If he is physical, get away from him and say, What the hell do you think you are doing? Let's get your wife in here and you explain it to her.... Call him on what he's doing. Tell him that you're not playing games. If he lays a hand on you, you'll call a lawyer and ask how to proceed within the law (I say this because some guys are so wacko, they would accuse you of assault and battery!)
Your friend has the problem with a nutso husband. If you like your friend, don't make a big deal out of it (don't involve yourself in what is going to destroy their marriage, which is his attempts to cheat), just be there for her because she is going to need her friends when she is depressed and divorcing him.
If you don't push him away, it looks to him like you are cooperating. If you're nice to him, the jerk may even think it's a form of flirting. Just be cold and avoid him.
2007-03-18 15:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who is at fault here is you, because when this guy started, as you say hitting on you, and you kept mum about it, this guy thought that you wanted a roll in the hay. When a guy starts making advances to a Woman, if the woman does not like him to make any advances to her, then right then and there, was when you should have told him to stop it, or you were going to tell on him, and if after you told him that, he still keeps on getting fresh with you, then in front of his Wife tell on him. This type of Men need to understand that some Women, need to be respected, there might be Women, out in the World that like Men, to make advances to them, but, not all are like that.
2007-03-18 20:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u r a good friend u would tell her what he is doing but that can be more hassle than it seems as she may think u r trying to split them up so maybe when he tries it on you should shout loudly to leave u alone and hope she will hear u otherwise just keep clear of him
if u r interested then stop ur friendship1st with her as this is not something u should do with a friends hubby
2007-03-18 06:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by zoomer2001uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't told him to stop, you need to do that first. Explain to him that you don't feel comfortable with him doing that. If he laughs it off, or doesn't take you seriously, then you need to tell your friend. She may or may not believe you, but if she really knows her husband, then what you tell her probably won't surprise her. Don't just keep threatening to tell your friend, do it! That will make this guy think twice about what he's doing.
2007-03-17 21:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop and if he doesn't that you will tell both your husband and his wife. Because I know how you feel several of my wife's friends were doing the same thing. I came close to telling my wife to get some new friends.
2007-03-12 08:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since these things always get twisted around, tell your husband that he hits on you. Then if your friend notices, and she decides to blame you out of denial, then you'll be covered. Let your friend deal with her crappy man. It's not your problem.
2007-03-12 08:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should confront him about it, being very honest. Tell him that you're uncomfortable with the way he's acting towards you. DON'T SUGAR COAT IT. If that doesn't show results, then go to your friend and tell her that you're uncomfortable.
Don't flirt back, or he will never stop. Stick to your guns.
2007-03-17 18:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rogue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you have to make it known that you are not interested in him.Give him the look..the one that says;"Did I say you could touch me?"Secondly he isn't much of a friend to your husband if he believes he can just take liberties that are not his own to take.Speak to your husband about it and have some concrete evidence when you do.
2007-03-12 08:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop or make it apparent that you dont enjoy the extra attention from him. If you dont flirt back usually they will stop. If that doesnt help then tell your husband/boyfriend or your friend & maybe they can help you. I hope this helps! Good Luck :)
2007-03-12 08:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋