If you overheard a roommate / friend talking to someone on the phone about you - and they said something bad about you as a person - would you confront them about it, or pretend you didn't hear anything, or what?
In this instance, they didn't just say "he always leaves the toilet seat up" or anything stupid like that. It was more along the lines of "I don't think we can trust him not to steal from us" or "I don't feel safe being alone with him."
So, it is something that turns the friendship you thought you had completely on it's head. Now you have to wonder if they are thinking bad things about you all the time. Do you say something? Do you move out? What do you do?
2007-03-12 08:13:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should confront your friend. Tell him/her you overheard the conversation and ask why they feel that you would steal, etc. Ask what you've done to make them feel unsafe. Don't be aggressive, don't be defensive. Go to your friend with a sincere heart and just ask. If he/she tries to deny it or play it off, that means they don't feel comfortable talking to you about it. If they can't talk to you about it, the friendship is pretty much over. You guys should be able to get anything off your chest without fear, especially since you live together. If you can't talk and put your feelings in the open, then you may as well move out. An issue like this split up me and my bestfriend/roommate. Now we only talk 2x a year. Get it out in the open before it consumes your relationship.
2007-03-12 08:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If moving is an option.... as you are packing your stuff up.. you confront this person.. as to why they didn't have the stones to say something to you to your face.
They should feel free to stay and observe you packing to be sure that nothing goes missing!!!
It's a pity they didn't have as much trust in your friendship as you did.
2007-03-12 15:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by larsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask that person if they have had any particular problems or difficulties with you living in the house!! Try yto get the truth out of them, just as if you overheard that person!! If they are extremely insecure then you might consider moving out for the best !!
2007-03-12 15:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely confront them. There are obviously some issues going on. You need to discuss this with them soon.
2007-03-12 15:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i would confront them and then i would be looking for another place to stay because you don't need that kind of drama. Because it may not stop just because you've confronted them.
2007-03-12 15:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PACK YOUR THINGS UP AND THEN CONFRONT THEM ABOUT WHAT YOU OVERHEARD AND TELL THEM THEY WILL NOT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT IT BECAUSE YOU ARE MOVING OUT.
YOU DO NOT NEED THESE PEOPLE AROUND.YOU NEED TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE YOUR TRUE FRIENDS. NOT PEOPLE WHO THINK IT IS ACCEPTABLE TO BE SO RUDE AND MEAN. YOU WILL BE OKAY. JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP HIGH. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON.
2007-03-12 15:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by SWEET SARAH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steal something from them and move out. Because they deserve it.
2007-03-12 15:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to them about it especially if it were something of this nature b/c I try to lead a good clean life{{{{ w/o these integrity issues..}}}}.
2007-03-12 15:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront this person! Especially if it's not true.
2007-03-12 15:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Bernice H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure it was about you? if so, you need to talk to them about it and if it can't be handled...you should move. if they don't think they can trust you ...you can't trust them because you don't know what they will do....they might kick you out at the last minute or somehting..
2007-03-12 15:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋