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2007-03-12 08:11:24 · 16 answers · asked by Taja M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
CHILD. My daughter is #1. Before my husband, brothers & sisters, parents, and friends. You should understand that.
2007-03-12 08:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you suggesting she should choose between you and her child? Well I don't know exactly how valuable my opinion is since I don't have any children yet, but I know most of my friends/family who are parents would say that the love experienced towards your child is like nothing you've ever known, you would do anything and everything for that little person. What do you mean by "she treats the baby better", that she spends more time with him/her or is more affectionate? I honestly think this is only natural, she is experienceing a very important process of bonding with her child. Unless she is actually mistreating you in some way, I think it is a little selfish to say she should choose either you or her baby as "better". You are both her family and I'm sure you both have a special place in her life, neither one is better, your relationships to each other are just different. Good luck, and maybe you should try to bond more with your new niece/nephew to help alleviate some of your negative emoitions, hopefully you'll become just as crazt about this new little person as your sister is!
2007-03-12 15:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by mandaj17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have an 8 month old baby girl and also have a 23 yr old sister. We are very close and my sister is her godmother. I know our relationship has changed but its changed for the better! At first as a mom you're trying to figure out what you're doing and you're sleep deprived! Call your sister and see if you could watch the baby while she takes a nap or do some dishes or the laundry for her! Having a baby added to the family is a big adjustment for EVERYONE!
That baby is her sole responsibility so she will need to make that a bigger priority! It doesnt mean that she loves you any less!
2007-03-12 15:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by GAjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should treat her child better than her sister. It's her baby. You sound like you're a teen and look up to your sister very much. That's great. If she JUST had the baby and you're feeling left out, why not ask her if there's something you can do to help. Ask her to give the baby a bottle or change the diaper or rock the baby while she does something else. That way you can feel involved and she can have another thing to connect to you about. Good luck!
2007-03-12 15:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A mothers love for her child is the most natural and unconditional love there is and you cannot compete with it!
She will love you as much as she always did, but she loves you in a different way than her baby.
Think about how you love certain people in your life, you love them each in a different way. You must understand that her hormones are changing and she wants to be the best mother she can to her new baby. Be supportive to her and add your helpful hands with the baby. Show her you love her baby too like a niece and she will have even more respect for you as a sister than she did before!
Good Luck
2007-03-12 15:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by qpook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing with my little sister.
I know that my little sister looks up to me for almost everything, and she knows that I'm always there for her. My sister means the entire world to me. It's not that I treat my daughter better, it;s that I have different priorities now. My daughter comes first. But I try to get my sister to help out with certain things. If she wants to spend the weekend with me, then she knows that she's more than welcome to come out and help.
So I guess what I'm trying to say,
is that
your sister isn't really treating you worse. It's just that, as a mom, there are so many things that she needs to do for her baby. Her baby is her number one priority. That's just how it is. When you have a baby, you need to basically stop everything and rearramge your life and put baby as #1. You're sister still loves you just as much as she did before. And I'm sure that she'd love you be with you all the time, but it is hard to do everything that she did b efore. If you are feeling really left out, why not call your sister and talk to her about how you feel. Let her know that you'd like to spend more time with her. Even if it means spending a few nights with her to help her with the baby. Changing diapers, feeding, bathing the baby, ect...
Being an aunt is just as important as being a mom!!! This should be such a great time for you. Try to focus on that!!! Your neice needs your love just as much as she needs her moms!!!!
So congrats on being an aunt!!!!!!
And just take things one day at a time and talk to your sister about your feelings
Good luck
2007-03-12 15:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by dreamcatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that you are jealous of your sisters baby? It is an infant and she is its mother so naturally she will treat it better and spend more time with her child than with her nearly grown sister. You could think about her needs instead of your own and assist her with housework or caring for the child. Most new mothers would appreciate some family support and assistance while they are recovering from the delivery and adapting to caring for the child.
2007-03-12 15:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I quite understand your question, but it is most important to take care of your children. A baby can't do anything for itself, it is mom's job to do everything for the baby. If you are jealous over a baby, you need to seek counselling. If your sister needs help with the baby, maybe you could help..... then you would feel closer to your sister and her baby.
2007-03-12 15:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should, of course, treat her child better than her sister. Doesn't mean she doesn't love you, but she is a mother now and the baby is her #1 priority.
2007-03-12 15:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her instinct kicked in, once you have your own child nothing else matters its all about your child. especially a newborn. they expect alot of time. once she figures out how to balance everything out!! I am going though that now, i just had a baby (2months ago) and i am just starting to figure out how to manage my time better so i can get things done, and spending time with my family, its very hard, My husband and i dont have long conversations anymore and i think i have seen all my friends once since my son was born.
2007-03-12 15:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by missmeliss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋