I have a friend who sleeps around way too much for her age. She is under 16 and the people she does are older than 16. I 'm not the kind of person to boss around anybody and tell them how they should run their lives, But I'm really concerned as a friend but i don't know what to do.
2007-03-12 07:58:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your in a tuff position, you are a good friend showing concern for her, your right at 16 she really should be careful who she sleeps with, she will end up with the very least a bad reputation, or possible worse, Aids or an STD, but the problem is she is going to resent you saying something to her, she will say oh your just jealous that your not having sex or something, but sometimes being a good friend means you have to put your friendship to the test, you should tell her your concerns and see if you can work through it.
2007-03-12 08:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a gentle reminder; every boy over the age of sixteen that she allows to have sex with her (I assume that is what you mean by sleeps with) is open to prosecution ‘even if she agreed, or if she was the instigator’
Reminding her of all the diseases she may get from all these associations; I assume will not work. Perhaps reminding her that her body isn’t fully formed at that age, and I remind all girls, yes even those over the age of 16; “There are still a few more years before your body is fully formed.
Some might consider me a silly old man, but believe me what seems mild like ‘virginal warts’ are extremely painful and ugly; also if the person isn’t clean there are many bladder complaints a girl can get easily.
Try your best to stop her, even if she thinks you are poking your nose where it doesn’t belong. It is better she stops or at least slows down now, than suffer in the long run.
“Daddy Dave”
2007-03-12 15:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend years back that at 12-13 started sleeping around. By the time she was 16 she was sleeping with men in their 30s that she was meeting on the internet. Before the end of her 16th year she had ended up with Herpies, was raped twice, and beaten severly several times. I talked to her over and over again and she would not listen to me. I ended up loosing contact with her because her promiscuous ways got in the way of all her friendships. To this day I feel guilty that I was not smart enough to bring this to the attention of my parents, her parents or someone at the school so that she could get help. As far as I know, she could be dead today. If I were you, I would say talk to her. If she does not listen try to get her help. She will be mad at you if you go to someone on the outside (like parents) but loosing your friend is worth saveing her life. Tell her about STD's talk to her about teen pregnancy and make sure that she has protection (condoms). Alot of teenagers are too embarased to purchase contraseptives on their own so they go with out and end up alot like my friend. Please, please, please consider any alternative you have to help her, even though I dont know her... her life is worth saveing. Best of luck.
2007-03-12 15:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely she wont listen. If you say something you are more like to hurt your friendship. And telling her parents will result in losing a friend. The best thing to do is tell her that you love her and be her friend no matter what. You can't make her decisions for her. But you can keep yourself from doing the same.
2007-03-12 15:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell her straight up....these exact words: "You're gonna regret this later on in life. Right now, it seems NO pregnancy, NO STD, NOTHING can stop you from opening your legs to a new guy each weekend...t.hey are only using you for sex; doesnt that make you feel TERRIBLE!? Wouldn't you rather wait for a relationship? Oh, and btw, if you ARE waiting for a relationship....stable relationships do NOT begin by having sex the first night you meet them, hun."
2007-03-12 15:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is tell her parents, hopefully they will do something about it. Every guy over 16 she sleeps with is committing statutory rape and could be arrested for it, it doesnt matter if she consented to it or not. If you cannot tell her parents or if, unfortunately, you dont think her parents care, talk to the couselor at school or even talk to your school police officer about it.
2007-03-12 15:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately she's most likely not going to listen to you. Most girls who do what she is doing are looking for love & acceptance.
Is there any way you can get her involved in other things where she feels like she's useful & a part of something?
Good luck!
2007-03-12 15:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her parents. she needs help. she has low self esteem and is crying out for help, looking for someone to "love" her. u cud also talk to her...she might end up pregnant with stds, aids.
2007-03-12 15:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try it you may find your missing out
2007-03-12 15:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋