ive just found out my boyfriend is married and i want her to find out?

Question

i have been seeing a guy for ages now and i have found out he is married but he doesnt know i know this, i want her to find out he has been having an affair, but i dont want to walk up and tell her it needs to be a discreet way. how do i do this?

i have been seeing this guy for ages and found out he is married and he doesnt know that i know i want her to find out i need to do this discreetly, and this aint to hurt her but i would want to know if it was being done to me and i dont want him back after

I DONT KNOW THE ADDRESS AND THIS NEEDS TO BE DISCREET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

do like the advert did leave some knickers or thongs in the glove compartment, spray is jacket with perfume and clothes if he not got them on and is out of the room and the good old lippy could work. what about a small note in his pocket that he wouldn't be able to feel but she might find when doing the washing.

Answer 2

if you are being honest here, and you say you don't want to hurt her, but if you were in her shoes you would want to know. i don't know why you want this to be discreet,making affairs known are never discreet. you need to tell her that you need to talk to her face to face about something that has been going on that you think she needs to know. it's obviously going to hurt her, and she'll probably take most if not all of her anger out on you, instead of her husband. unless, of course you're not the first woman he's cheated on her with. she also might choose not to believe you and believe whatever her husband tells her. you really need to end this affair regardless if you tell her or not. it's not healthy for you. you deserve a man that you can trust, and who loves only you. not you and his wife. or countless or mistresses.

Answer 3

You will gain nothing if you tell her that her husband is having an affair, you went into the affair with your eyes open, it should be him who you want to get back at not his wife. You must have suspected it if you have been seeing him for ages and still do not know his address. Find someone who is free to love you, good luck

Answer 4

I think you should just go up to her one day when he is out and tell her that you have been seeing him. say that he has been stringign you along aswell and that you had no idea he was married.

then (if she is up for it), once you've both got over it, you should get together and hatch a really funny plan like both turn up the restaurant next time he asks you or sometihng.

alternatively, just tell her and then both tell him that yuo know.

i tihnk being discreet wont' work becuase then she might think that yu knew he was married all along.

anyway, good luck with it whatever you do, x

Answer 5

First, you need to learn how to tie knots effectively. Look up rope bondage online. The next time he wants to meet you somewhere for sex, bring along some rope and tell him you want to tie him up for sex. Once he's good and snugly tied, ask him to struggle for you. When you are sure he won't get loose, get his cell phone and find the number for his wife. Call her up and invite her over.

Not exactly discreet, but it should be effective.

Answer 6

just dump the guy thats your priority now, leave the wife out of it, after all its not her fault and you will have nothing to gain from this because you will hurt her, i agree that she needs to know what a git she is with but it really is not your place to tell her, he will do it again and at some point it will come back and bite him right on the backside and that will be sweet enough, she will only blame you anyway and this could cause you all sorts of problems, move onwards and upwards girl and good luck

Answer 7

i was in exact same postion as yourself two years ago i was seeing a guy for over 5 years and he was married,instead of going to see her i posted a letter through her front door explaining all and put my mobile contact number on letter.
However i not proud of my actions as i really hurt her she was heartbroken however i dont regret it as i knew it was end of him and i and i not living in some sort limbo playing second best to no man.
my only advice to you hon is to ditch the guy fast,move on you deserve better and if he loved you more than her he would be with you no matter what

Answer 8

I'm sorry, I'm for the direct approach. Yes she will be angry, and you will probably get an ear full of it. But if you stopped being intimate with him after you found out, you can't be thought of too harshly. After all, you didn't know prior to that.

Some have said not to tell her. I see their point, but to not tell her leaves the door open for him to do this again. What if next time it is w/ someone who has an STD. A good friend of mine got herpes that way, another person I know got genital warts, because no one said anything. You don't think about using a condom w/ your husband, and then you end up with a disease because of it.

Answer 9

i think she has the right to know what a dirty scum bag she married, follow him, after all if hes married he has to go home at some point! this brings me to my next question, how did you find out?? is this source reliable?? are you sure there married and still together they could be seperated and by telling her you may end up losing him for you not trustin in him! make sure your 100% certain first!

Answer 10

Why does she need to pay for her husband's stupidity? Just tell him you know and you're debating what to do. That will drive him crazy. Then get the hell out of Dodge.
You don't need the s.o.b. or the headaches. Find someone new. And, tell me, if you've seen him for ages, you didn't ever have a clue? No tell-tale signs? You should get to know your men better.