I went through my entire first trimester without feeling depressed or iritable toward my husband. Now that Ive started my 12th week, Im not liking my husband so much. I feel that hes being insensitive to me and that hes not paying enough attention to me and our 2 boys. Of course, Im over reacting to EVERYTHING but Im depressed and its getting ridiculous! I hate feeling this way...normal? Did anyone else feel like this when pregnant and when did it get better. ( I wasnt like this with my other 2 pregnancies but that was 10 years ago) Thanks!
2007-03-12 07:40:48 · 31 answers · asked by tulips♥77 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, I totally felt like that at times, and it was like EVERYONE got on my nerves--not just my husband. What helped me was eating good food, getting plenty of rest and just taking care of myself. You'd be amazed at how much staying healthy can ease your stress level. And also, everytime I would think about spazzing out on my husband for something little (like not taking out the trash) I would stop and remember something nice he recently did for me (like bringing me home a chocolate shake) and it would turn into no big deal... The more you try to do for him and act like he's not getting on your nerves, the more he'll do for you. I'm sure you'll feel better soon, I started feeling better towards my last trimester (now all the irritation I have is physical). Good luck, and congrats on your 3rd baby!
2007-03-12 07:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's not my hubby, he's my partner, but it's all the same, and YES!!!
I was OK for the first few weeks too, but I got irritable, restless etc after that, and I still am now, at 31 weeks pregnant!
It's especially bad when he's not feeling too great, he moans like mad when all he's got is a bit of a cold, sometimes I wish he could go through a bit of what I'm feeling!! Constant backache, exhaustion etc!!
He's being great and putting up with it very nicely, and I do feel bad after I've had a go at him, but he and I both know that it is pregnancy hormones, and can sometimes be completely irrational. We also both know there's not a lot we can do about it!
If it's affecting your relationship, just talk it out, that's what's worked best for us!!
(I wasn't like this with my first pregnancy either!)
Good luck and congrats!
2007-03-12 07:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband was a SAINT dealing with me during my pregnancy. He was very attentive. THAT was what got on my nerves. I felt smothered. But I also took it for what it was worth. I knew that I was reacting to the condition that I was in, and also he was trying to give me all he could and help me all possible and be a good husband. I got backrubs every night (THANK THE MAKER FOR THOSE!!!!), and he waited on me hand and foot. He went to every doctor's appointment with me, and he missed work everytime I went in for my "false alarms".
If you feel like he is bugging you, go for a walk, or step back and take some time away. More than likely you are right - that you are reacting to hormonal imbalance. Take a bath, or go for a walk, or go and visit a friend. And you might not be getting all that you used to due to it being the third time around. Men seem to think that one pregnancy is just like all the rest. Boy, do they have a lot to learn, huh????
Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-03-12 07:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get way more annoyed with my husband now that I"m pregnant than before.
We argue about him being messy (becuase I have to clean it up) and I don't have the energy I used to have.
We argue about him staying up late playing video games (because it keeps me awake and my sleep is way more important now).
I feel that my life has changed 100% since I got pregnant, and he's not affected whatsoever.
(but I'm definitely not complaining, this baby is a blessing and I wouldn't change it for anything in the world :)
I'm just more irritable .. mostly because of hormones .. my husband understands .. and it's perfectly normal.
I tend to get bummed out on occasion and feel kinda mopey .. for no reason at all. It's the hormones and my husband never gets upset with me.
good luck! God bless!
2007-03-12 07:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband got on my nerves. I am 38 weeks pregnant with our first, and this has been a high risk pregnancy. I was placed on modified bedrest (thus taken out of work) at 18 weeks. I feel like he still expected me to clean the house and cook dinner every night, even though i wasn't supposed to be out of bed much. In hindsight, he didn't expect this at all.....he was just stressed out too! Worried about me! Worried about the baby! Worried that he was the sole provider for us now. So, when i asked him to pick up take-out on the way home from work and he would get a little upset, he was worried about finances, not thinking i should cook. I also think i become "crazy" for a while......i was scared, nervous, etc...not only about the risks to my pregnancy, but with the normal pregnancy worries as well! Anyway, things are much better now, hopefully thing's will get better for you too!
2007-03-12 07:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kirsten 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh i couldnt stand my husband when i was pregnant it is perfectly normal, i hated the way he smelled, chewed his food,his deodorant,or even for him to touch or kiss me,but you feeling the way you d towards you husband is normal also i was recently pregnant and felt that way towards my husband and no your not totaly over reacting sometimes men dont know what they are doing wrong and they need a reminder every now and then but if you also feel he is being insensitive to you and your feeling that could me you emotions getting the best of you. Just talk to your doctor and tell him whats going on with the depression he might be able to help what did help me though was me and my husband would take walks down the street around 5:30pm and just talk.
2007-03-12 07:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by jessica v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I looked at it this way when I was pregnant....When you start to wonder if its your pregnancy hormones making you crazy IT PROBABLY IS! We moved a week before I had my daughter and people helping me pack made me have a breakdown because they didnt wrap vases like I did. Sounded like a good reason to get upset then, now I know it was just acting crazy. It is normal...to an extent...and all pregnancies are different...you're probably having a girl!
I know your husband will get on your nerves but remember...he's got things on his mind too. That and guys are not the brightest bulb in the box when we expect them to be!
2007-03-12 07:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by GAjen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am 39 weeks pregnant and it has been more than 10 years since my last pregnancy. i, like you did not feel the way i do now. for me depression has come and gone throughout the pregnancy and EVERYTHING gets on my nerves. just because your pregnant does not mean you are blind. you are just more sensitive to things that ARE actually happening. keep in mind though he is probably battling a few of his own emotions as well. have you talked to him about how you feel? anyway, unlike 10 years ago your body will need vitamins more than ever. increase your b vitamins, that helped me with my depression. good luck
2007-03-12 07:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all your hormones, hun. Each pregnancy is different, so you might experience something now you didn't experience prior. A lot of women get depressed during pregnancy and after pregnancy. It's just your hormones going haywire (kind of like you're a budding teenager again! lol) Just try pushing through it and don't forget about the small pleasures in life. And be excited! You have a life growing inside you! Good luck with your baby!
2007-03-12 07:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by A. Borealis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah definitely. We were going through some hard times financially during my first trimester so i thought maybe that was why I was so irritable, but now things are better and I'm STILL irritated with him... lol. I try and take it easy because I know I'm overly sensitive, but I get mad that he always wants to be out with the guys. Also, he never wants to do anything for me, but he'll get out of bed in the middle of the night when his buddy gets his truck stuck while he's out offroading.
He really is being good to me, but I'm sensitive to every little thing. Just try and keep in my mind that maybe you're a little hormonal.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 08:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋