in Calif. (about 3,000 miles away) She is in her 50's; she has
money from the divorce and somewhat mentally unstable.
What do you think?
2007-03-12 07:37:07 · 19 answers · asked by judy f 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's her life, I would let her do what she wants. The further away the better, it sounds!
2007-03-12 07:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult and can do what she wishes no matter how unsound the decision may seem to others. Even though she is "somewhat" mentally unstable, that does not mean she is incapable of handling her own affairs. she probably just needs some time to herself so that she can recuperate from the divorce. Let her know that you are there for for her and give her some space.
2007-03-12 14:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says she mentally unstable? Is she on medication or have a history of mental illness?
If not maybe she's just living her life the way she choices. You live once. Whatever it is as her sister try to be supportive, going through a divorce is very stressful and trying to rebuild ones life again is hard.
2007-03-12 14:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister has a mind of her own and can figure this out for herself. If she wants to move there isn't anything you can do to stop her. She is an adult so she's not 'running away'. she is simply relocating away from old memories that she has every right to do. she wants to start over somewhere else and more power to her! heck she's in her 50's and wants to go to CA. . If she has the means to do it, I say she should enjoy her new found freedom and go with her long awaited dreams.
2007-03-12 14:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that's your sister and you don't want her to leave. But, she's doing the correct thing. In a situation like this, it's best to move around a explore different things. Staying in her same daily routine will only make her stress and think about her past. If she was to move away to start a new life, she'll be too busy to stress. Plus, she's fifty and it's time for her to get her groove back instead of moping around. Go with her if you can.
2007-03-12 14:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got news for Y'all-- ANYONE who just got divorced, (regardless if they were the one or not who insigated the divorce) is temporarily mentally unstable. This will pass in about two years.
My advice: Tell your sister that you love her and you will support her in ANY decision she makes. Then give her a hug and a kiss.
2007-03-12 14:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by eyedoc999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you very well know she is mentally unstable how can you leave her like that? My advise is that you get hold of her and her money and credit them on her account and use them for her treatment. She has to be taken care of before it goes out of hands. If you have any problem in taking care of her there are many other options to take care of her for pay. So help her rather than leaving.
2007-03-12 14:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by neeraja_boda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell her to go for it! She'll have a blast, and if she is only "somewhat mentally unstable", she should be fine, because really, who isn't a little mentally unstable?
2007-03-12 14:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's in her fifties, there's nothing wrong with wanting to take a break and see the world per say. Just be there to support and love her.
2007-03-12 14:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is strong enough to distabilize anyone, right now she need not be alone, you need to be there for her and also pray for her, that is the one thing that can help her right now apart form therapy which contributes aswell.
2007-03-12 14:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN'T control a grown woman.
She will fall on her a$s out there, I guarantee it!
When she realized how expensive it is..just to live in the ghetto she will come to her senses.
Just start showing her apartment and house prices. It should be a sobering experience!!
2007-03-12 14:44:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋