Separation of parents?

Question

What kind of behaviour would a child that is missing/grieving his/her absent parent display in the classroom?

I carried out observation with a child that his parents just separated and his behaviour is just indescribable. I was told to carry out an activity to help him, but I’m clueless guys. Any ideas will be appreciated.

Answer 1

My 10year old son used to get upset (cries) at the slightest things like changes to routine - instead of getting free play they had to watch a video, not winning games, not understanding his school work, and being told off for something very trivial like not having his jacket on for his break. He also got upset if one of his friends got into trouble at school and he would cry over it. He did things like bang his head on the table and kept calling himself stupid too. It was a stressful time for us both and for the teachers and I really didn't know what to do. I told the teachers just to tell him if he starts crying they've told phone me and it helped the problem as my solution was not to listen to him being upset over silly things. It works and over time he has got better and his outbursts are quite rare now. But he does still call himself stupid and takes blame for things if not, takes things out on my partner.
A solution for the classroom was to give him a 'worry box'. It was a box that whatever he worried about, he could write or draw about what his problem was and put it in the box and his worries will be stuck in the box and not annoy him anymore. He was told nobody will read or look at it as it is for him only unless he wants someone to share it. He only used it twice that I know of but it works well.

Answer 2

There could be a range of behaviours from withdrawal to aggression - it depends on the child (we all react to different situations in different ways) and how the seperation is being handled by the parents.

Answer 3

Seeking attention mixed with anger probably. A pupil of mine hadn't done her homework once and as an excuse she told me that she was away at her father's during the weekend-her parents being divorced-and she didn't have the books with her. She didn't have to tell me all these details in front of the class but I guess she was angry and confused about her parents' separation.

Answer 4

Well normally a child would keep it to themselves but still feel slightly angry about it, as i have been throught it myself i can say that not all children are quiet and inderpendant some form their grief into anger, like shouting at teachers, or bullying even so!But most parents agree to "share care" their child by letting them see both that way its bets for them and their child/ren...

Hope this helped xxx Jessica

Answer 5

The child may either withdraw,or act out to seek attention,depending upon his personality.

Answer 6

disruptive,
trouble concentrating
& sometimes, withdrawn.
hardly good 4 learning.

Answer 7

Status----Choas,lost in some other world.

Answer 8

well they could become withdrawn or really loud and moody

Answer 9

UNCONTROLABLE