Ladies..what would you do to your husband?

Question

what would you do if you found that your husband has a profile on date.com and an adultfriend finder web site...and that he is looking to have a discreet relationship and that he is seperated. one accoutn was logged into on Wednes...and the other within the last month?..what would you do?.. 1) get a profile of your own and have some fun yourself... 2)Never speak of it 3) confront him about it, but you only know he will lie to your face...

Thanks all of you for your answers!!!!!

thanks all for your answers

Answer 1

I'd speak to him. Ask him why he did it, tell him it is deeply upsetting and what you can do to resolve it. If he did it 'because he was bored', then you have my permission to ignore him for the rest of the week!

Answer 2

Make sure you copy that page. Keep watching what he is doing on the site. Keep your mouth shut , get a detective and when you have enough evidence. Kick his *** out the door. He will never tell you the truth. Once a cheater always a cheater don't waste your life on him. You deserve. better. Monitor the cell phone records and , put a tape recorder on your phone you can get at the local Radio Shack. Can't be used in court ,but you will know where he is going and will save you money with your detective. Put at GP unit on his car to see where he is going. Watch his credit card useage. For gas and extra food. See if he is getting more cash than usually so he can pay for things in case you pay the bills.
Just sit back say nothing and he will hang himself. Just smile like everything is just great. They sock it to him. Don't let this guy use you. He is using you and the other person. Stand up you will be glad you did

Answer 3

3!!! This has happened to me, you confront him with the proof at hand. Don't worry about him knowing how you snooped behind his back, that will come out anyway. Nip this in the bud, now! My husband was not trying to meet singles, well atleast i never proved that, but he was doing all kinds of shady stuff with aliases and secret email accounts that were all feeding an extreme porn addiction. I was able to catch him, let him know how much his lies hurt me. Now when i say catch him, i mean over and over again. I almost left him because of it. We have a year old son that was 3 months old at the time. Over months of lies and confronting him about it he finally admitted that he had a problem and got help. Our marriage has never been better. Now for you, you need to let him know that you know, figure out why he is doing it because when the truth comes out, boy do you learn some stuff you never wanted to know. But, you can decide if your marriage is worth fighting for and take the necessary steps to achive your goal in the marriage. Don't ignore it, it will only get worse, don't get a profile of your own, you would be no better than him. The internet has destroyed to many marriages so you have to decide if you are going to let it destroy yours, or if you want to save it at all.

Answer 4

I would take it as a sign. If he's searching for a discreet relationship, he's either cheating now or will be soon. That is SOOO not normal in a marriage. That would show me just how much trust I could have in him. I'd have to confront him about it, but don't ask him. Tell him matter-of-factly that you know what he's been up to. Leave it a bit vague and see what he walks into. I've suspected things before and alot of times, if you just imply that you know something, they think you do and they'll either spill their guts or start crawfishing with excuses. you'll know the truth if you keep your eyes and ears open.

Answer 5

Maybe it's just my line of work, but my thought would be to collect as much evidence as you can just in case. Remember that your #1 in this not him. If he is cheating you have to be prepared to take care of yourself. This will help with any divorce proceedings. I would start my own profile and start e-mailing him as you would be interested. Then save all that documentation. I'd even go as far as to set up a meeting with him and your fake profile and when he shows up he'll find you.

Answer 6

I find this sentence disturbing: "You only know he will lie to your face." You KNOW your husband will lie to you. Wow. That does not speak well for the kind of man you willingly married. You married a liar.

So, you have made your bed and now you must lie in it. You married a man who is a liar, apparently expecting him to be honest toward the sanctity of your marriage. You act as though you are surprised, but you clearly have known for some time that he is a liar. Consequently, I vote for your option 2 -- never speak of it. He is who he is and you married him.

Answer 7

I would start a profile myself and then go for him, making him think I was someone else... I would become the stalker and scare the living crap right out of him to teach him a lesson....

I would then confront him and he would be punished like never before !!!

Answer 8

My husband did. I thought I would leave him. I did confront him and he did lie to my face. But I decided to turn him over to God and let God deal with it. We are still together and more in love than ever. Its been 3 years this month. Turning things over to God is the best thing to do. God will let you know if you are suppose to stay or go.

Answer 9

My wife just said: number 2. then get all the evidences and take him to court and take all his money.

Hubby:Thinks for the insight question now i no that i will never ever ever get a date site or adult-friend site on my computer or my assss is grass.

Answer 10

I would say to find out what his motives are. Create an account and have a little fun, but only if you can not let him on that it is you. See how far he takes it....if he is willing to meet up with you. If so, wear a wig (of whatever color your profile will have), describe what you will wear and sit with your back to the door. When he comes up to you you can turn around, pull the wig off and walk out........and straight to the attorney's office.