This weekend I went to visit my best friend from college. I hadn't seen her in almost 3 years because she lives in Mayland and I am in Michigan. She has a 4 year old little boy and told me that she was struggling with him because of his behavior but I didn't know that things were as bad as they are.
Her house is a complete mess. Its real dirty and very unkept. Things are everywhere, the carpet is completly disgusting and needed to be thrown away years ago. She has a cat that has the whole house smelling like cat and urine. She has roaches and things in the house are literally falling apart.
I just couldn't get over how dirty the house was. Kitchen just junky. Kitchen floor nasty and dirty. Living room carpet completly disgusting. Roaches running around. Its so sad to see her like this because she is letting herself go as well. Toes nails very long and uncut. Wrinkled up rough dry clothes on her and her son. Very sad. What can I do to help her. She desperately needs
2007-03-12 07:27:58 · 6 answers · asked by joyce 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She desperatly needs some help. She tells me that her self esteem is very low. I cannot believe the person that she has become because I knew her before and she is the complete opposite now. Her little boy stresses her out because he is overly hyper. Very sweet little boy just very hyper and needs lots of attention. She works hard but has little time for self and him. Could she be starting to go through depression. I am sad to see her like this.
2007-03-12 07:30:09 · update #1
You sound like a great friend. I know this is cliche, but just by listening to her voice her problems and letting her know you are there for her regardless of the distance, will help her. I have a friend in Michigan and I am in Texas. We actually write letters instead of emailing because they mean so much more. Write her a letter and tell her you support her. Send her a care package or if you can afford it, a gift certificate to get her house cleaned by professionals or just a gift certificate to the salon. Whatever you do, don't let her think you are judging her because it will just make her distrust you. Regardless of what you can do monetarily for your friend, your love means the world to her and that's what she needs more than anything. Let her know she is not alone.
2007-03-12 07:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could you enlist help from her family? She sounds like she's in a depression, and may need meds for it, but you can't carry the burdon yourself. If you could ask her if everything is ok, and tell her you were asking b/c she looked like she was struggling worse then she let on when you saw her. Tell her you just want to help, and you're not judging her. Man, I feel for you. good luck!
2007-03-12 14:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's made her own mess and probably doesn't even mind it . Be a shoulder for her to lean on but you should not be cleaning her house because she'll never learn that way. She sounds young. She'll have to figure it out for herself. Just be there for her emotionally.
2007-03-12 14:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a counselor....maybe they can let her know some places that can help...it could be from depression that she just doesnt care ne more and that a counselor can help her with and refer hert to some places for parenting classes....have u talked to her about it? tell her your concrned for her n u really care..maybe she needs to hear that from a friend...good luck!
2007-03-12 14:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by jaysangel040106 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to see a family counselor in her area. a lot of areas have family services and assistance for little or no cost.
2007-03-12 14:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out and do something fun that she likes
2007-03-12 14:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋