have u ever swap partners before
if yes, what made u consider it
and how does it make u feel
are u seeking new people to join in on ur fun
let me know ur story
2007-03-12 07:27:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We enjoy this lifestyle. It came about because we were having marrige problems and she was frustrated. I was in a stressful job and my sex drive was way low. I ended up leaving that job and my sex drive went back up again, but the damage had been done. She had talked with male friends she worked with about her frustrations. One suggested that he would like to do a 3-some and that could add some spice. She wasn't sure about talking to me about it. But she eventually did, I was really suprised at first but not totally against it. After a few days and several questions, I felt I was ok with it. We met with this guy and set out the rules. That's very important, make sure the boundaries are set and everyone knows. I'm not even remotly gay but he was an attractive guy, nothing wrong with him. We decided to do it... it was a complete turn on for me. I was a little suprised how much I enjoyed it. We now are into couples and 3-somes both guys and girls. It's really a lot of fun and keeps the sex drive going. It is difficult to find the right people though. Some are too agressive or not there emotionally. Make sure the couple is emotionally ready themselves. We had a situation where the other husband wasn't ready for it, so we didn't get past the 4-play part. I felt the tension in the room so I decided to stop. But this isn't for everyone, both have to be completely alright and have all the questions answered. Communicate everything, what you liked or didn't like. There are a number of websites out there for meeting people like this. Good luck!!!
2007-03-12 09:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do not even consider doing this unless you have a rock-solid relationship that isn't prone to feelings like jealousy, inadequacy, self-image problems or performance anxiety. Do not consider it if you think it will "solve a problem" in your relationship.
If, however, you do have a solid relationship, you are at somewhat less risk of problems.
That said, the risks far outweigh the opportunities for pleasure and fun, but that's also true of gold prospecting and gambling, and plenty of people have chosen to pursue those things, too.
Rule one - you don't do anything that you don't both agree on. If somebody is "twisting someone's arm" that won't work.
Rule two - always use protection. You have no guarantees what kinds of STDs are out there, and if the men aren't using protection, you might just as well be playing Russian roulette.
Rule three - have a "safe word." That means a simple word or signal that if given, the activity stops. You have to have that, and all participants must heed it.
OK, that said, I'll share the bad news first. Trying to find just the right couple is like interviewing people for a job - only worse. It's hard enough these days to find TWO people who agree on most things; figure the odds for FOUR people. The "interviewing" process gets old real quickly.
Unless you get "lucky" right away, you're going to end up meeting with a lot of couples, which means setting up meetings at safe, neutral grounds, like a coffee shop, pub or restaurant. It can get expensive.
Just like job interviews, everyone isn't always honest. They claim one thing - and do another. Good luck with that.
Couples that "live on the edge" can often be pretty quirky and have any number of emotional problems, and they're not always obvious.
We had some great times with a couple, and the woman was suffering from depression. That can get kinda spooky if you're not familiar with it.
We always preferred being together in the same room as opposed to separate bedrooms. You choose which of those you prefer. For us, part of the excitement was observing each other with another partner. Plus, your partner may feel "safer" in that setting.
OK, now the good news.
There was a couple we spent almost a year socializing with, and we met them TOTALLY by accident; we weren't even "shopping." Things just clicked, you know? They were sexy, pleasant, fun, and they thought the same of us.
Things went off both comfortably and like fireworks.
I can't tell you here just how good it was.
We all had some great times with no regrets. Sometimes, people DO get lucky. It happens.
If you wish, you can click the email link on my profile and I can give you more information and suggestions.
Just remember - be careful, be select, be honest and straightforward, and be safe.
2007-03-12 15:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My story is I don't believe in sharing the man in my life with no-one and he better not consider sharing me or he can kiss this *** goodbye!! a commitment is just that and it should be between 2 people, not others included. Whatever happened to monogomy? Is there something that your not satisfied with that makes you need to seek outside help?
2007-03-12 14:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, what is the point of having a partner if you are just going to screw anything in sight. If that is the case stay single!!!
2007-03-12 15:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i never share my hubby with another woman i keep her(the other woman) all to myself. on the other hand i have him bring home a guy friend or we pick some guy up in a bar then take him home and my hubby and him give me a good flogging.
2007-03-12 14:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by bluemist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way....I love my husband way too much to share him and want him all for myself!
2007-03-12 14:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! I love my husband. We are more than enough for each other!
2007-03-12 17:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say gonnacyphaherpaclamaAIDS!?!?! I'd say NO to this one!
2007-03-12 15:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by peapod_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No and No.
Happy HIV!
2007-03-12 14:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋