she is in gr 8 and those "friends" gave her and her boy a box of condoms. im really worried b/c she has lost her virginity to a guy thats cheating on her. what can i to to help her? i tried telling her he is a cheater, and we just started talking again. im worried she will get hurt or worse.... pregenate
2007-03-12 07:25:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she also lies to her true friends about doing it
2007-03-12 10:37:00 · update #1
I would suggest not talking about her boyfriend with her anymore. You already told her what she needed to know. If you keep telling her that he's cheating on her, it will just make her think that you are jealous and she will definitely not listen to what you are saying.
First things first, you need to earn her respect and trust. She will not listen to you if you are not someone she respects and trusts. Tell her you are worried about her and you just want the best for her. Always try to be caring but do not let her mistakes slip. Let her know when she is doing something wrong and let her know the consequences. (IE, if she gets pregnant, she will have to stop school, grow up, be responsible and tell her parents. Or when she gets caught doing drugs, she can be in serioous trouble with the law and her parents. She will be destroying her own life and not even know it until it's too late.). If she doesn't listen to you, then let her find out for herself. You can only do so much.
Hopefully, she'll learn to listen soon.
2007-03-12 07:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are bad friends but thank God at least she has or had some condoms. It's not a good thing to be doing in 8th grade, I agree, and her parents would be upset if they knew. The guy who is cheating on her - it's probably painful for her to know that and to know that you know that - so she has to drop him from her life herself. What you can do, since you are a friend, is tell her that she deserves to be treated better. Also, I'd tell her that one box of condoms doesn't last forever and you worry about her for that reason. Then just be her friend. She needs that!
2007-03-16 09:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most you can do is be her friend and help her understand the consequences of her actions. Be a friend about it though, not a mom. Tell her things like "You do know condoms protect you only 97% of the time, right?"
Don't try to manipulate your friend, but be a friend as well and be there for her no matter what. As someone outside of the situation, you have to be the voice of reason. So whatever your opinion is on something, make sure you show ALL other possibilities as well. Good luck!
2007-03-12 14:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by A. Borealis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her as a friend or as more or less you will tell her parents what she is doing and that she is having sex.... I am 15 and I did drugs last year and kept getting drunk and got pregnant and I have a 3 month old child and am pregnant again unfortunately but its my fault.... you really need to tell SOMEONE at least that cares.
2007-03-12 17:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove 2 her that she is worth more than someon who cheats by catching him in the act
2007-03-12 14:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by 2cute4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her mother that she is smoking doing drugs, and having sex
2007-03-12 15:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋