Why do I do all I can for people but they cannot help me out?

Question

I'm sick and tired of proving myself while people dangle a carrot in front of me.
I cannot jump through any more hoops in life....How do I pay the bills by just making Me happy?

Answer 1

its hard.. you learn how to say No and stick to your answer to others in need
help yourself first

Answer 2

"How do I pay the bills by just making Me happy?" I wondered that for so long. I would wear my fingers to the bone, doing work I hated, and trying to help people who just ground me into the dust. I don't know that it's possible to change that all at once, but I think it should start with the question, "What does make me happy?" "What kind of work do I, or would I enjoy?"

Turn the answers to those questions into goals. Make it your goal to turn the things you enjoy doing into a career. Don't just quit your job and expect your dreams to pay off - work toward it. In a practical sense, this may mean taking a correspondance course or night class to help you perfect a skill you enjoy; making up flyers and posting them all over town for a skill you possess and would enjoy using, but aren't sure how much of a market there is for; contacting someone who makes a living doing the things you love and asking them what practical steps you could make toward doing the same.

As the result of this kind of thinking, I am now making a better living than ever before, working two jobs, but ONLY doing things I love. I'm still working toward making my "play" pay all of the bills, not just be pocket money, and in doing so, slowly faze out the work that I enjoy doing, but is very physically taxing.

I've always been a very firm believer in: "Where there's a will, there's a way." The answer lies in not giving up on your dreams.

As far as "doing all you can for people" is concerned:
Don't stop being helpful - it is a beautiful quality that will earn you the most valuable and satisfying relationships of your lifetime. But, DO learn to say no when people ask the impossible, or when they expect more than you can reasonably give. If you don't, it can cause you to resent them, and damage your reputation, because sooner or later you will end up going back on your word because there was just no way to keep it.

Answer 3

Sounds like you must naturally be a helping person (whether at work or in your private life), maybe it's in your nature that your a kind person and quite possibly helping people makes you ultimately feel good about yourself. However, over time it can cause feelings like you're apparently experiencing. What you could do is make a change. Maybe continue helping those people (by this I am not saying to do other's jobs at wrok) in your life that truly appreciate you or the help that you give them but most importantly do things for yourself. What I mean by this is to take time for your self.
Also, don't feel like you have to prove yourself...that's too much pressure. Just by doing the best job that you can should be enough in life. Relax and just enjoy life and things will come to you. Try to think like this and things should change for you.
Good luck to you.

Answer 4

You gotta give everybody the big **** YOU!
Excuse my French. I feel exactly the same way! Do what makes YOU happy and nothing more. If it does not benefit you, then to hell with it. Thats how other people think and operate. Why should you be any different???

Answer 5

You answered your own question. Put yourself first, after God of course. All the good you have done will come back to you one way or another. Jennifer

Answer 6

If you have nothing to give, then stop giving and renew yourself. No one will give you what you want, you need to get it on your own. If you want it bad enough, go for it!!

Answer 7

Well you should be Glad to be helping someone out, it also can help you in the long run.