How do I kick out a roommate???

Question

My husband and I have one of his friends staying at our house. It all started about 1 1/2 years ago when my husbands friend got kicked out of his parents house. By the way he was 26. My husband said that he could stay a "couple" nights when he needed to.... if he didn't have anywhere else to stay. So he stayed maybe 2 nights a week in the beginning because he was dating a girl at the time that would let him stay there at her house. Now it's a different story. My husband works in a different state for 2-3 weeks at a time. When my husband comes home, his friend is hardly ever at our house. But when my husband leaves, he stays at our house 24-7. He doesn't pay any rent at all, he leaves his ciggarette buts all over the yard, leaves all of the lights on, and uses all of my household supplies. How do I kick him out without hurting my husband's friendship with him? I am not the kind of person to be mean either. Please help.

No trust issues between me and my husband at all. And his friend and I despise each other. Plus he is so not attractive. Just want to clear things up.

oh yeah and he is only there when I'm home because every time my husband sees him he asks him if he is going to help with the rent....so he avoids him when he is home. I don't say anything.

No no no no. My husband isn't the problem. I know that they are friends and I am not going to make him tell his friend he has to move out. I will NOTmake him

No no no no. My husband isn't the problem. I know that they are friends and I am not going to make him tell his friend he has to move out. I will NOT make him do that. I just want to know good ways to kick someone out. That's all. It's plain and simple. Please stop over analizing and just give me some good ways to kick someone out. Thank you.

Answer 1

That's an easy one. First, you tell him you would like to have complete control over your home again; and if that doesn't work...then try using the old "shoe to the backside" approach!

Answer 2

Ok, so who’s house are you living in? Yours right?
And who’s husband’s is yours? (if you can consider this a real question) Yours! Right? Duh!

So then, what do you think you have to do? Simple, talk to your husband, and tell him exactly what is going on.

That guys is no friend of your husband at all, he is just taking advantage of your stupid husband (sorry but that is how I see it) and living there for free.

So, since you said your husband tries to get rent form him and he evades him, I wouldn’t even consider giving one more chance at all.

So, the solution is to get this guy one day and set things straight with him. And the best way to do it is by making him believe that your husband is out of town again. Then as he shows up and he is already “installed” back to your house, you call your husband, and he comes home.

And right there, you two confront him. And is important that you are there because it seems your husband is weak when it comes to be the man of the house. Tell him that he has x days to leave. I would not give him more than two weeks. A week should be more than enough for him to find a place to rent. And is over.

Your husband can offer to help him moving things or whatever, but after that time is expired, you guys collect the keys from him, and best thing to do after he is gone, is to change locks.

And if he asks again to stay, you guys say no. Period. And make sure your husband tells him not to show up at the house while he is not around. And keep it that way. And if he has the guts to show up while your husband is out, you don’t let him in, and you tell him that you are about do something, and sorry, and let him go, don’t let him in.

If he by any chance keeps on trying to go inside, do what you have to do, including calling the police.

By the way, don’t accept offers about start to pay rent. He had his chance, and ruined it, same with his “friendship”. A real friend would ask for help, and would never take advantage of his “friends”.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Just let him know how him being there is affecting you. Set some ground rules and tell him that if he can't follow them then he is no longer welcome. Include in those rules money for rent and any household items that he uses including food and soap. You should also ask him to pay a portion of the utilities. And let him know you expect him to help around the house when he is staying there. Pretty soon he will realize the free ride is over and he will move out on his own...most likely to someone else's house where the free ride will begin again.
Sit down with your husband before you do it and have him help you set the rules out and the rent out so that when you confront his friend it is with a united front and all the blame does not go on you.

Answer 4

Sit your husband and have a serious talk with him. Explain to him that you married him and made a promise to be his wife, not his friends maid and cook. Tell him your commitment didn't include taking in his 28 year old friend in as a child to raise and if he wants him there, then he had better find someone else to tend to him because you quit. Don't worry so much about hurting your husband's feelings or busting up their friendship. Your husband hasn't considered your feelings and friends don't move in and treat their friends that way. You really want to get the point across - when your husband leaves again and his buddy shows up - hand his buddy a bill for $110.00 and tell him checkout time is 11:00AM tomorrow morning unless he wants to pay another $110 for tomorrow night. If he gets unruly about it, tell him that you're the co-owner of this hotel and responsible for running it and if he doesn't like it there's another hotel just down the road. He'll get the message and so will your husband!

Answer 5

You are just going to have to be the B! If your husband is not going to take care of it then you need to ride him until he does. Eventually he will get rid of him and he will tell his friend that it was all your fault and you have to be ok with that! He's not your friend so why do you care what he thinks about you. There is no reason there should be another person living in your home unless it is your children. You could just kick him out yourself and take all the heat. He is 27 years old so he should be able to stand on his own by now, get rid of that looser! This is a trick i learned with my husbands friends.... I hated when my hubby's friend said a certain word, so every time he said it i puched my husband in the arm. Eventually he stopped saying it because my husband would punch him after i punched my husband. Do the same with your hubby, nag and nag and bi*ch and wine until he finally gets rid of this guy, so what if he blames it on you, you will get your house back.

Answer 6

Sweetie, you shouldn't feel bad at all about kicking him out. You let him stay for over a year rent free, and sometiems 24/7...you did him a great favor and he should be nothing but thankful and grateful even when you tell him it's time to move out.
I think your husband should be the one to tell him, since it is your husbands friend and he invited him to stay to begin with. The fact that he stays there 24/ when your husband is out of town only is kind of suspicious to me, and I think your husband will agree with me on that.
You're married, and young and you deserve your privacy in your own home with your husband.
I know it's hard to do these things, like tell people to move out, but trust me you have nothing to feel bad about. If you awnt to be nicer than you have already been maybe you guys can give the roommate a heads up and tell him to star looking ofr a place of his own, because you want to focus on your family and give hima month or so to start looking and packing.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Personally i think after you tell your hubby that he is there 24-7 when he is not there that should bother him but all you need to do is go down to the court house get a proper evictoin notice and give it to him that gives him thirty days to vacate
if your husband gets upset tell him to put you up in your own house so you do not have to deal with unwanted company

Answer 8

Sometimes you have to be mean... I don't like being mean either, but I would first talk to my husband, and ask him to tell the man to leave, and if he doesn't than I would just put my foot down and tell him to get out that it's your house and you are not living in your own home uncomfortably.

Answer 9

Change the locks?
Give him an itemized bill each week for rent utilities etc. Stop cleaning his room. Move spare furniture and other things out of storage into his room. Keep snacks locked in your bedroom where he can't get at them. Disconnect the cable or put a password on it so he can't watch it. Just make living there as uncomfortable for him as you can.

Answer 10

Talk to your husband, this is not a health situation, let your husband know how you feel. Then my suggestion is to let your husband tell his friend that you are not comfortable with him being there any more without your husband there. Hopefully this will work and retain the friendship.