We were together for almost 11 months .He called me 2 days ago and asked me to give him some space. He studys for a difficult Bar exam. I was supporting him without any complain .
He said that I have two choices :Break up or give him some space for a while(5 months) so after that he will build this realtionship again .He said he loves me but he can not make my happy during this time ...During our conversation he was talking about his exam ,his mortgage and his company !!!!so What about me ?What's my role in his life ?All I offered to him during our relationship were Love ,Passion and sacrifice without expecting alot from him .
I don't deserve this .If I 'm a part of his life why he wants a break from me?It doesn't make sense .
He said that I'm so sweet and he loves to be with me but taking care of his problems is more important than our 1 year relationship ...
2007-03-12 07:04:48 · 23 answers · asked by labellesmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
U r so young.
Give him his space. Yes it is easy-er said then done, but in the long rung it will help u.
He has it in his mind that he wants to be single. Even if u stay to gether he will not respect Ur relationship. Yes it does suck CZ u seem like a really nice woman.
Yes us woman give more than we get. I am in the same boat only thing is I have a baby by him. U have a chance to explore life and really find Ur self with no ties. It much harder when u have to see this person CZ of Ur son.
Yes it not fair it never is.
He is being honest with u. He is telling u Y.
Use this time to find out what u want in a man.
How much u r worth. How much they need to show u that they deserve U.
Good luck
U will find that special person.
Like they say if u Love someone let them go if they return it's meant for U.
Just let him show u not tell u.
Word come and go, but action tell u what u mean to them.
2007-03-12 07:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I just got out of a bad relationship where I thought things would improve, but he broke all ties with me after a year , even though I still loved him. It sounds like you deserve better, just like I did. If he's not willing to make you part of his every day norm and treat you with the respect that you deserve and show you the love that you've shown him, then he's not worth it. I mean yeah he should study and think about his other problems, but you should be one of his top priorities. A relationship doesn't work like some guys think, they think that they can just have some space, 5 months is a lot of time, and you can just start up again after that. I don't think that they understand our feelings. I think its the best for you, and it might hurt but you can push through it, just like I have to do right now. Maybe, in the future, there will be something more, but right now you deserve better! You should feel like you are getting everything that you give back! Good Luck!
2007-03-12 07:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's asking for some space, maybe you're being a bit over-bearing in this very stressful time of his life. If you've been waiting like a little puppy dog for him to make time for you, that isn't healthy either. How about just taking a step back and living your life for a little bit, do what YOU want to do, when YOU want to do it. Call him once or twice a week, see how he's doing, let him know you're there for him. If his calls seem to stop coming, then you know the "I'm too busy" routine was just a front, and he's moved on from you. It's sad, but it happens. We outgrow eachother sometimes, and try to think of it as a good thing that it happened now and not when you were married or something! good luck!
2007-03-12 07:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that asking for space is a man's way of breaking things off so that they can't be held responsible for thier actions, yet keeping you on a leash in the meantime. In other words having thier cake and eating it too. You should do just what he asked. It's going to be hard and it's going to hurt, but back off and give him his space, but don't sit around and wait for him either. Get out there, have some fun, hang out with your girls, and just enjoy single life. Tell him if it's meant to be in 5 months you'll both be in the same place in your lives and you'll work it out. Otherwise, you are going to do what you want. And if you meet someone else in the process, well that's his loss. Be strong! :-)
2007-03-12 07:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's difficult situation.. i dunno.. i would say..give him his space but then think about it ur putting ur life on hold for 5 months maybee shorter or longer .. in those 5 months so much could happen.... or mayb his wants to test the waters.. I'm not trying to put idea in your head but it's might be the truth. Also he loves you n u understand whats going on n his life so i don't understand why would he wanna break up with a supporting gf.. doesn't add up .. if ur there 4 him 100% i don't get it but what ever ur choice is be careful...
2007-03-12 07:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by pj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants space, in other words, he's telling you politely to go away. What is difficult to understand here?
Don't hang around like a beggar. Walk away with your head up high. Be proud.
Find a new man, more deserving of your love; Someone who begs you to stay, NOT go away. Someone who will stay with you and support you, through everything. That is true love. You'll surely know it when you find it. This 'space' man is not IT.
2007-03-12 07:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants a break, give it to him, but with the understanding that you will date other people during this time. If it's meant to be with this guy, it will work out, but in the meantime, don't just stand by and wait for him. Go out with other people. You may just find someone else who makes you part of their world and puts you first. It doesn't sound like your current BF does that.
2007-03-12 07:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I went through that with my bf of 4+ years and what I told him was that it was fine if he wants his space but even though I loved him I wasn't going to sit around and wait for him so if he wanted to do his own thing it would have to be at his own risk because by the time he has his space and decides to come back to me that didn't mean I would be available for him and by then it may be too late but he still wanted me to call him once in a while and for him to call me, hang out etc... and I said "if you want your space then we shouldn't have contact and I'm certainly NOT going to call you..." Like I said, he was back soon. You just have to do the same and stick to your guns, let him know you mean business too and that you aren't going to sit around by the phone waiting for him - heck no! Remain strong and don't show him weakness. Even if it isn't true that you're not going to sit around at least he knows he may be missing out and it's his loss. Good luck, if he really loves you he'll be back girl - TRUST ME. Just keep yourself busy, go to the gym and work out - that helps a lot too. Besides, when he sees how good you're looking with all that working out he'll WANT to come back :) If he doesn't then it wasn't meant to be and there's someone else out there who's more worthy of you. You have to believe that.
2007-03-12 07:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you any more,may be he has meet another love. It is no fault of your if he chooses to walk away from you; most people don't appreciate what they have till it's gone. He is only patronizing you when he says you are sweet and he loves you.If he mearnt it he would never let you go away even for a day let alone 6 months. You will survive, move on!
2007-03-12 07:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to say that it is my opinion that he just doesn't want to be with you. He is keeping the option open to come back to you after he gets all of his business straight. This is not fair to you. Nobody deserves to be treated like a doormat and that is exactly what he is trying to do with you. He wants the best of both worlds. If he does not find someone that he likes better than you he wants to know that he can come back at any time. Just be warned that if you let him do it this time he will do it to you again... repeatedly
2007-03-12 07:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋