Is it fair for my wife (41/2 months pregnant) to complain about 40min drive once in a while?

Question

My wife does not work. She seems to be in good health. I can say that because we go out together for dinner, movies, etc. Although she complains about exhausion once in a while, I think she is averse to work. She had some post office work to complete (30 min). I asked her to get a check from a store which is not too far from the post office and she lost her temper. She can argue with me for hours together but cannot seem to drive to a near by store (total drive time is around 40 min and work is around 20 min). Is this fair or pregnant ladies cannot drive/work even 1hr a day? Is pregnancy a disability? I would appreciate any input from ladies who had similar experiences and can provide some input

Answer 1

what may be difficult to one pregnant woman may seem like a breeze to another...
not only does it depend on the physical condition of the woman but also the work they are accustomed to.
my mother up until my birth was able to do a tremendous amount of work, and i have seen plenty of women who overwork themselves up until the birth of their child-- not because they have to but because it is the kind of women they are.
i'm not advising you to tell your wife to work her *** off until 9 months, but it does seem she is being a little difficult.
what was her work ethic like before the pregnancy? was she always spoiled and somewhat lazy or is this because of the pregnancy?
i agree with you, i do not think that the tasks you are asking her to do are too much to ask, but she is going through hormonal changes and some women want to be treated like "Queens" while pregnant. It also may be the way you are talking to her and asking her to do these things. Try using a different tone, or coming across as sincere, don't make it seem like you are criticizing her for not working or that you're bitter about it.
Let her know that you care for her,and that you're a hardworker and trying to support the family and that you don't want her to stress herself out but that you need a little help with some errands.
If she still bitches, then I'm sorry suck it up for the next 4-5 months!

Answer 2

I worked two jobs while I was pregnant , because my ex did not work all the time. When my second daughter was born I went back to work when she was only 8 days old. Because he had lost his job for stealing. You can do almost anything if you want to when you are pregnant. I was working with a girl during that time that complained about everything. She couldn't do this and that. She did not realize at the time I was pregnant. One day she started complaining and told me I was going to thave cover for her. I told her honey, I am 3 months farther along than you are grow up and stop using this as an reason for not working. She never said another word and started working. I worked clear up to the day my children were born. She is lazy!!!!!!!! Go with her to the doctor the next time and ask him what she can do and not do. Now, I do know your emotions are high , but you have to learn to control that too.

Answer 3

Plain and simple...hormones. In most cases, a healthy pregnancy is not a disability. When I was pregnant, I went to work at 6:30am and worked until 4:30pm, and worked until four days before my due date! However, every woman is different, and maybe make your request differently. Ask her if she would mind doing at her convenience, and maybe while she is in the area, find some cute new clothes for summer, or baby furniture, a manicure, etc, etc.

Answer 4

pregnancy is not a disability, but some people treat it like it is one. and not only that...they also use that as an excuse to not work, not do anything for themselves, to be attention whores, to get front of line privelages and to park up close. plenty of people work while pregnant. i can see how she is tired and exhausted even more so because she is pregnant. but if she wants something...make her work for it. also...don't let your wife not work and expect you to do everything else. only provide what is needed. if she wants something extra...tell her to get a part time job at least. cause that's not fair to you. unless her doctor tells her (and you) that she is not to work during her pregnancy then she is able to work.

Answer 5

I drove 45 minutes to work every day during both my pregnancies, and of course, it was 45 minutes back home! Never bothered me, and if I had to really pee, I would stop at a gas station. She may just be using it as an excuse.

Answer 6

Ur kidding good? U placed this infant interior her and u choose for to go away. i ought to work out why she could be a b**ch with u..... if u think of like this, u must be terrible at homestead. If u take the infants she ought to record kidnapping. Then there will be no new child help, merely jailmates. each woman is hormonal........ i'm carried out chatting wit u.

Answer 7

Um usually when a women is pregnant, she is constantly tired. She just wants to sleep and be lazy.

Its not her, but its just symptoms. Im not pregnant but my close friend who is, she is experiencing those same symptoms, so its normal.

Dont take it personal, just be there for here and help her and just love here unconditionally.

Answer 8

its ruff going threw a pregnancy i had two kids so i remember i was sick whole nine months its not a disability but you do get terrible sick i did anyway so she might not feel like driving

Answer 9

I'm 7 months pregnant and think that's bullshit. Unless shes on bedrest, she can get off her lazy *** and help you out sometimes.

Answer 10

MJ is right, she's just emotional from the pregnancy. dont take it personally, but you might wanna try and just stay outta her way for now, lol