How far should we be willing to go in the name of love, selflessness, forgiveness and compassion for our beloved? How much should we allow the opposite sex to bash our egos for the sake of maintaining a relationship?
2007-03-12 07:02:52 · 12 answers · asked by psychologist 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Not far at all. Allowing someone you love to treat you that way is, in a form, not loving them. You are allowing them to be harmful not only to yourself, but to whoever else they encounter. If people can't stand the one you love--what type of quality of life is that for your beloved? If you really love them, you'll want to help them, and teach them how to treat another person lovingly.
2007-03-12 07:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Solorya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You act like a bashed ego is a bad thing.
What has ego done for you lately. It is like a big sore thumb just waiting for something to come along and bump it so it can make you feel miserable. Maybe if you did not give ego so much power over you, you would not get your feelings hurt so easily.
You should expect a woman to give you every bit as much respect as you give her but no more. She is not a crutch for a feeble ego.
If she is not respectful and you are being respectful then you need to address this issue. Politely tell her what you expect and if she can't meet your expectations end the relationship. Don't silently suffer with a wounded ego. Just be sure that your expectations are based in reality or you are just wasting both of your time.
Love and blessings Don
2007-03-12 07:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it shouldn't be that far. Or those negativities shouldn't happen in the first place. I couldn't begin to imagine how can a lover tarnish the beloved's ego. That is not love. On the other hand how can a beloved tolerate such demoralizing actions of the lover? It is not love indeed.
To maintain an honorable, worthy relationship, love must exist between the couple. To love is to be honest, respecting other's interests, straightforward-being able to say what is bothering both of them directly, and not going around the bush, or using another persona to send the subliminal messages, that is not love, that is deception.
2007-03-19 11:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by oscar c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you not see the absolute confusion in your question?
"Honour", in love is a machismo term mostly from the Ancients and Middle ages. It has little to do with love and so on in your question.
There is of course no answer to this question. That you ask it suggests that you are looking for an easy way out of a painful relationship.
You, and only you, must decide on what you want and your capacity to bear or influence your relationship.
Could it be that your ego is more fragile than you would like?
Could it be that your partner has unresolved issues, even mental problems, that you could actually help her with?
Could it be that you are simply being used as an accessory (like an old handbag) useful until your partner replaces it.
I'm afraid that there is no answer to this question and that anyone that says that there is is probably foolish and prejudiced.
2007-03-20 02:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by salubrious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what you mean by ego bashing. Some people have alarmingly big egos and are very condescending and overbearing. These people could use someone in their life to put things in perspective and help them realize that reality doesn't bend to their demands and whims.
However, if you're being unduly criticized because your significant other is too judgmental, intolerant, impatient, or egotistical themselves, you are under no obligation to tolerate that. People who treat their loved ones that way have not yet learned how to have relationships, and no relationship that they have will be happy or successful until they learn to treat others with the respect they deserve and with the kindness and compassion that is only appropriate in that type of relationship.
2007-03-12 11:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like a mercy, and Christian culture values mercy as a virtue.
But actually, it is not quite right. What is the point of the relationship if it does not fulfill your needs and does not satisfy you, your ego, your emotions? Why should you stay in a relationship just in the name of relationship and hurting not only yours but the feelings and proud of your partner too? Would you like your partner to be with you just for those reasons? From the philosophical point of view it is immoral; from the psychological point of view it is unhealthy.
2007-03-12 07:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Aurora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if someone is bashin another ego then it is because of some of their own insicurities and they are trying to deal with them and unless someone speaks out and says enough is enough then the cycle will continue. I think you should pull the insecurity card and say you know what if this is how it is going to be then I am gone and see if that person allows themselves to become vulnerable and if not then there is no chance they need therapy.....
2007-03-12 07:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as ending a relationship because of honor, it should never have started. Allowing another person to batter our egos is stupid and suicidal mentally and emotionally. It may even be suicidal physically.
2007-03-17 12:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 11:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by penso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of relationship ends without ending the whole relationship.
2007-03-17 15:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Gary B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋