you may be put of by the age or maybe judge me but please please try and see it from my point of view ill just cut to the chase ive slept with my boyfriend at least 8 times without protection because we was planning to have a baby i realise it kinda stupid now but i still dont regret it what are my risks? i am having stomach pains and are always feeling sick. i researched other symotms are are experiencing some but i just wanted help from others too, Ive talked to my mum about it and she wants to wait and see if i come on my period but i really want to find out so what do you think? please let me know!
2007-03-12 06:56:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, your risks, physically, are that your hips won't be wide enough to deliver a baby, so you'll have a c-section, which is major surgery. You may also not be able to breastfeed because your breasts are probably not completely developed. Plus you may not be able to finish school because you will need to get a job to support the baby...and you're too young to get most jobs, so I guess your mom will have to support that baby. That's really not fair to her or the kid. How old is your boyfriend? Is he really going to stick around for the next 18 years? I really don't know any people who have been together from the time they were 14 for the rest of their lives.
I'm sorry, sweetie, I'm not trying to be mean or judge you, I just want you to THINK about what you're doing. You have a pretty good chance of being pregnant considering the unprotected sex and the symptoms, but you'll have to take a test when your period is due to make sure.
If it's negative, please don't try this again. Wait until you are out of high school so you can get a decent job and provide for your child yourself instead of having your mother do it for you. Give yourself a chance to grow up and get to know yourself and have fun before you get all of this responsibility. And see if you are still with this guy in 4 years. Once you've done all these things, then see if you want to have a baby at that time.
If it's positive, what's done is done and you can make the best of it. If your boyfriend is older, he needs to get a GOOD job (not one at McDonald's, because that won't provide enough income for a new human being) so he can support you and the baby and your mum won't be stuck doing all the work. Please, for your sake and the baby's sake, stay in school. It may not be easy, but it'll be a lot better than trying to work for minimum wage your whole life because you don't have a diploma.
If you need to talk or anything, you can email me at jessica_gray_hare@yahoo.com. I know a bit about teenage pregnancy because I am 18 and pregnant, and my best friend had a baby at 16.
2007-03-12 07:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is very sad for you. You shouldn't have let your boyfriend talk you into this, now what will happen if he decides to leave you? You are stuck with a baby at 14 and you are not even done with school yet. Don't you know going to highschool and having a young baby is hard to do? What about your future? You are to young to have such adult issues. If you are not pregnant you better jump on your knees and thank someone you have another chance at life. Your body is to immature right now to have a child. Why are you having sex without protection? You will get an STD, don't you know AIDS is on the rise? You may love your boyfriend but how do you know he isn't having sex with other girls and then bring you home a STD?
You need to calm down. Maybe your period didn't come because you are stressing out so much. I really hope you are not pregnant, a baby is a lot of responsiblity especially at your age. But if you are my God I hope your mother sticks by you and help you thur.
2007-03-12 14:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by Iluvhim 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OK i am am not going to tell you your a baby giving birth to a baby. Because apparently you feel you are an adult so i will treat you at one. Yes there is a chance you could be pregnant. You need to take a hpt (home pregnancy test) or go see your doctor. If you are pregnant you need to understand that you are going to be giving birth to a life. A life that will be with you for 18years or longer. Lets look forward your in high school all your Friends want to go to a party but you can't you must go home and take care of you baby. Then your 16 old enough to get a job well do you think that money will be spent on the coolest new pair of sunglasses or shoes. And at that time you'll be old enough to drive. Do you think your Friends what to ride around with a car sent in the back of your new car. And graduation night when everyone is going some where to celebrate do you think you will be with them I don't think so. I want you think about what I have said and not blow me off please. Trust me I am now 20 and been wanting a baby since i was 13 but it am sooo glad I waited and got to in joy my youth
2007-03-12 14:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HEy girl,
You are 14. You are faced with a hard life ahead of you. If your mom doesn't want to knowuntill your period i would go to the drug store or any store my guess wallmart it is cheap. go there with your bboyfriend and get a pregnacy test. At your age it could be really dangerous. Best of luck. Whatever you do, please do not get an abortion. People say your not killing the baby but you are. My mom said the second you are prenant there is a human bieng in there. Do what is right keep it or put up for adoption, just don't get an abortion pleaase. God bless you guys hope all goes well bye, oh and there are alot of couples out there that cannot have kids think about adoption,
2007-03-12 14:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Feeling nauseous is a sign. However, there are many other things that could cause nausea, including worrying about being pregnant. If you worry about it too much you may just begin to imagine symptoms. Besides that, if you have not even missed a period yet, it is a little early. Most of the time a test is not even going to tell you until your period is a few days late. My test did not show positive until I was 3-4 weeks along. Just relax and be patient. Testing now is just going to drive you even more crazy.
2007-03-12 14:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by mchlyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you have to realize that having a baby changes everything, especially at 14. But the only way of finding out if you're pregnant is to take the test. Hope you have a good support system and best wishes.
2007-03-12 14:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by happygolucky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i aint no expert on this but what i think is best STOP HAVING UNDER AGE SEX .. see this is proof you are too young .. yu have no idea bwt these things .. its very unsenible ..
your body hasent developed properly yet and alsoooo ..
how could you cope with a baby at 14 ??
just do what you think is best and use protection .. you have put yourself in a lot of danger as you could get any diseases ..
go to tha doctores .. or ask a family member as you have!
really .. its hard to know at this point!
2007-03-12 14:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ = ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have probably just given yourself a very hard life ahead. You need to get a pregnancy test at the health department and tell your parents.
2007-03-12 14:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take an EPT test. and get the one that says "early results". I think thats the best I can say. Symptoms dont always mean something.
2007-03-12 14:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by curious789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor. I would think your pregnancy would be at high risk due to your age, but who knows.
2007-03-12 14:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋