This is her choice and not mine. I am very upset with her right now because she isn’t facing the issues, she is just running from them because her family does everything to avoid conflict. She has some depression issues but refuses to get help for that.
2007-03-12 06:54:59 · 34 answers · asked by blingblinger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't have to. Do what's most comfortable for you. Sorry that you're going through this
2007-03-12 06:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear the ring...I know you are upset...but since she has depression issues, it will give her confidence knowing that you still care for her. She cannot be pushed to get help for the depression...she must reach a point where she feels that she needs it. OR, you can try group counselling, with a pastor or a mediator. That way, she has you to help her thru the pain and confusion. She might be pushing you away because she is unhappy with herself...if that is the case, she needs you to be there for her whether you all are separated or not.
2007-03-12 07:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by ktbell42 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not running from them. That's your point of view. Maybe she's just finally accepted that your marriage is over and you aren't facing the issue.
Take the ring off when it feels like the right time for you to do so. And for what it's worth don't tell her you think she's depressed and running away, she'll run even faster.
2007-03-12 07:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you are still married. Not wearing it gives others the impression that you are single, and that will not help anything. Once you both have a chance to sort things out, explain to her that you only want the best for her and she really needs help. Offer to go with her and she will likely be more willing to participate. Once the doc sees that she has issues that she needs to resolve, he will request private visits. If you love her, help her break the cycle.
2007-03-12 07:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think I mean your still married, right? Just out of respect as well, I dont know does she? How would you feel if she didnt, or would you rather it be that way? its up to you and do as you would have done to you, ya know. Its called peace of mind, anyways some people you just cant help and certainly cant change, but things might work out and dont do anything that you'll regret if it does or that will bring resentment or hard feelings to an already hurt situation. Good luck Kim
2007-03-12 07:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you are separating just for a short time to sort out issues...then leave the ring on, but if you are separated and going thru legal mesures to dissolve the marriage then take it off.
2007-03-12 06:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding ring is a symbol of your love and commitment to your partner..If this qualities are lacking in your relationship wearing a wedding ring makes no sense.
2007-03-12 07:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To wear your ring or not is totally up to you. Since you aren't yet divorced and haven't closed this chapter of your life, perhaps wearing it for a while longer (to indicate you are not yet "available") would be appropriate...when you're ready to move on then either take it off, or move it to the other hand.
2007-03-12 06:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think u should. Plus this helps her come to the realization that there might be a possibility of losing u if she doesnt face whatever problems u guys are going through.
2007-03-12 07:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you, are you legally seperated? If so you don't have to wear the ring unless you absolutly want to. I would say if she doesn't like confrintation try convincing her that you didn't want this and suggest marriage counseling, i mean obviously she isn't going to confront you, maybe a mediator would help!
2007-03-12 06:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsearay85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her and think you can still have her back, keep the ring. Keep trying to get her back. If you give up on her, then take the ring off. Good luck!
2007-03-12 06:59:07 · answer #11 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋