my 9 year old son hits me if i give him a slap or get annoyed .my husband does n't say any thing tohim?

Answer 1

slap him harder

Answer 2

First you and your husband need to have a good long talk about what you each expect regarding discipline. Your husband not reprimanded your son for his actions both undermines your authority and gives way too much power to your 9 year old. This will get to be out of hand by the time he is 13!. You and your husband need to support each other in this. If your husband refuses I would suggest marriage counseling or couples counseling to get to the root of the problem. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

Slap your husband this time (just kidding), if you keep on slapping your son slowly but surely he will loose respect for you and without you husband not bothering about the issuse he may even get abusive. Try to discipline him by involving him into active sports, dance classes etc. You have to teach him to respect women folks else he might turn into a devil instead of gentleman. All the best!

Answer 4

Alright, these other's answers are amusing, but not right. The most importan thing in parenting is you and your husband being a unity, what will happen with one parent, should happen with the other. Your son shouldn't be allowed to do that to you, I bet he wouldn't even consider doing it to his dad.

Your hubby needs to step up to the plate, he's failing in his role as a responsible father. He needs to stick with YOU on everything. He should be punishing him and lecturing him that you NEVER treat a woaman that way. Hitting him back is just teaching him it's accepted and you're the tougher one. That isn't good parenting. You're not lions, you're people.

You and your husband are too divided, he needs to stick with you on everything. It's better for the kids when there parents are in agreement on everything, and if he won't tolerate your son doing that to you, it'll get the point across better and he should stop doing it.

Answer 5

Girl, where are you from? If my any year old child would raise a had to hit me-it would be on! Why are you waiting for your husband to say something? I thought the days of 'wait until your father gets home' were over. Get with him before he becomes a man and shows you no respect at all!

Answer 6

talk and have communication between the two of you privately, and if you cant come to some acceptable decision or agreement than you'll have to take things into your own hands and do them as you'll have without him, meaning just after attempting effective communication just put it in your head on this one your own your own and do as you would if he didnt exist so to speak I personally would still while making decisions reguardless of him wrong doing keep in mind his beliefs and yours, just out of respect(even if he doesnt) atleast you'll know yourself that your doing the right thing. I also wouldnt lash out about it infront of the child because than you'll be bringing it to the childs attention the disrespect the husbad is giving to you and your taking and will use that to his advantage. Then deal with the husband on this issue seperately I mean do what you gotta do and then in your mind take care of him seperately while not letting the situation itself go unattended, you would get back up then, anyways good luck, Kim

Answer 7

sounds dysfunctional to me! What are you thinking when you are slapping him? That you are behaving like a mature adult? No that is not the right approach ...no wonder why the child hits you back!! He is filled with anger and resentment! At 9 I think you should already have a better apprach at disiplining him in a contructive way...NOT DESTRUCTIVE!!

Answer 8

All these confusing answers not getting you anywhere. Look at the following examples and decide for your self to find out what's best. Do some exploratory work. With love you can win the world. With unthoughtful confrontation, you invite the same and educate them to contnue on the same war path:

http://drphil.com/articles/article/148/
http://www.empowermentresources.com/info2/childrenlearn-long_version.html

Answer 9

I think its my brother story , the best thing you should do is tell your son that its not a fair thing tell him if u will do this with ur mother god would punish you , god dont like kids who hits their parents ,tell him stories fairy tails nine yer old kid is not too big to understand the fact if he do sent understand you should sit with ur husband and talk about this , my brother too disturbs me and when my mother says anything he hits my mother or get anguished

Answer 10

That is a bad thing to go through I have kids that go through this . My daughter wont put up with it . She will not let her son even act like this , he tried and she did tell her husband what he was doing wrong .

Answer 11

Talk to your husband about this. Since your son is not able to control himself against you, your husband has to come into play. He has to teach your son to respect you and your values as a mother.

All the best...

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