A year ago I moved to my boyfriends' house...his mother used to live with him, but she moved to a cousin's house temporarily .....we began living together...He pays the mortgage, electricity ...( he owens the house)
I pay for both cells, gas, food, drycleaner...I have bought all the stuff the house like lamps, rugs...I have a small car & he has an suv, we chanded cars for him to save gas because he works very far.He repaired the whole house, bought new furniture and appliances ...he is paying for it...but everytime we argue he tells me to pick up all my stuff and leave ...
I feel like he used me...On my bithday( valentines day ) he didn't gave anything I got very mad...
He owens me around 2 k because he installed a new ac.
He are not having sex...he tells that i am too fat ...I have gained 20 pounds since we started....
Should I leave him???????
2007-03-12 06:34:24 · 19 answers · asked by Cuqui 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You deserve someone who's going to love you no matter what. If I had to guess, I would say you're right - it does sound like he's using you. Set up some ground rules with him, quit paying his expenses, and if he can't treat you with the respect you deserve - let him go.
2007-03-12 06:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is why are you still there? If he's asked you to leave and you genuinely feel as if he is using you and not reciprocating your feelings why are you still there? It doesn't seem to me as if you are receiving anything for your trouble other than a roof over your head, which by the way you can get anywhere. 20 lbs is not that much weight, but over 1 year it may appear to be. You don't say how much you weighed before (or your height) but if you are comfortable with yourself, then he should accept you as you are. Go find a nice apartment, join some clubs (a nice book club at the local library or book store, a volleyball club, volunteer at the animal shelter or hospital) to get out and you will be over this relationship in no time and form new friendships (and perhaps find a new boyfriend also). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-12 13:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take everything that U have bought for the house and
leave. There's no use in living with a person who doesn't
love you no matter what U look like. And besides U guys don't even have sex. I think he has no respect 4 U. Just
leave. THere's someone out there who would be willing
2 love U for who U are and not for what u look like.
Peace!! Take care..
2007-03-12 13:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U happy... No then leave yes then stay but if a man loves you he loves you for you obviously you are with someone who doesnt appreciate your contribution to the house, and he calls you names so he doesnt respect u. Now ask do u want to be with an unappreciative, selfish, disrespectful person? There you go the answer to your ?
2007-03-12 13:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is taking you completely for granted. But he can't if you don't allow him to. He is disrespecting you and you need to put a stop to this right away.
Get your boxes out and start packing. Make sure you have proof that the stuff you take is yours.
Tell him he'd better call his mom back because his gravy train is over!!
2007-03-12 13:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he treating you the way you want to be treated? I sure hope not because no one deserves to be treated like that! You should take you stuff and find somewhere you will be respected. Stop paying for his cell, gas, and switch your cars back. If he is making you feel used, he doesn't deserve you.
2007-03-12 13:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sleepy Head! ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like he dosen't appreciate you very much. You are a doormat to him. If he loved you he wouldn't make you feel like crap. If i were you i would leave him. You deserve so much better. You deserve a man that would do anything for you and love you wether you are big or small. Please get rid of him or your life is going to be nothing but heartaches. YOU DESEVE SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-12 13:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by greenmarkalyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first mistake was moving in with your boyfriend (or you and your boyfriend living together). if you are not married then you should not be living together. he is a jerk. and yes you should. the next relationship that you get into....don't rush to live wtih any man unless you marry him first.
2007-03-12 13:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know you wrote all of this out and if that does not give you an answer then there is nothing that anyone can say.
2007-03-12 13:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take everything you bought and get out. you do not want to be with a man who doesnt respect you. try and find receipts so he cant say your taking his stuff.
2007-03-12 13:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋