Isn't Verbal Abuse just as bad as Physical Abuse?

Question

I am going back and forth with my boyfriend because he says that getting hit can't be worse then getting told you a bi*** or a sl**.
I'm not going thru this but we have a friend who is.
And verbal abuse always turns into physical abuse if you wait it out that long.

RIGHT?
Does anyone agree?

Answer 1

Having been in both circumstances, I can say from experience that verbal abuse is much worse; Those bruises don't heal and they slowly wear away at your self worth.
I'd gladly take a punch rather than be verbally abused by someone I care about.
I know I'd knock a MoFo out before he'd EVER have time to make contact with his fist...trust that.

Answer 2

I don't agree that verbal abuse always turns into physical abuse but it is just as damaging if not more so than physical abuse. Outside scares heal, you pick yourself up from these and are scared for a while but move forward with more confidence then before. Inside scares are not seen buy the outside world, you don't always deal with them and hide them away. It is harder to move forward with confidence when you have been belittled by words for so long that you have come to believe them.

There are arguments for both and no one should tolerate any abuse at all. I'm still trying to get back to the person I once was after getting out of a marriage - emotional and verbal abuse. Everyone still sees me as the strong, confident person I used to be - they don't see the inside.

Answer 3

Absolutely. If someone sees you not doing anything about the verbal abuse they start to think that you are mentally weak so they wouldn't expect any reactions from you when the verbal abuse will SLIGHTLY develop into physical abuse. You have to stop your boyfriend from doing this because it affects your life, your mentality and even your general opinion on yourself. If that wouldn't be stopped, your personality may be destroyed, you would let yourself down, you might become disparate, hopeless and it would even change the way you look at the things and the way you live. I know numerous examples when people took the verbal abuse and it grew into physical abuse. Don't turn disparate now, good luck.

Answer 4

I agree wholeheartedly. I was not physically abused, but my ex-husband was extremely controlling and verbally and emotionally abusive. This is why he is my ex. While he never physically abused me, he did physically abuse my children and I had to get a restraining order against him due to death threats he made. Yes - verbal abuse is just as bad. Sometimes it can be even worse because there is no outward evidence of it that can alarm others to try to help, yet it can erode someone's self-worth to the point that they will allow the abuser to treat them horribly. Verbal abuse doesn't always turn to physical abuse, but there is a high likelihood. I was married 20 years with a verbally abusive man who never physically abused me. The death threats he made indicate it's possible he could try to hurt me. Regardless, no abuse is good and those in abusive relationships should get out.

Answer 5

Whether anyone acts like a B*** or not...there shouldn't be any verbal abuse going on. I was in and know of people who have been in verbally abusive relationships and it is mentally tormenting. Maybe it's the man who's the A$$ and likes to belittle women. It's just as bad as physical abuse.

Answer 6

I do agree. My best friend married a guy who wasn't the nicest person to her, but he wasn't really abusive until they got married. He made her feel so small and insignificant every single day. It ate away at her emotionally. As horrible as physical abuse is, I actually think that verbal/emotional abuse can be much worse. And finally the day came when her husband grabbed her and threw her down. She divorced him a year ago. It was sad because they'd only been married a year, but she's a much healthier, happier person now.

Answer 7

I think they are equally as bad, there are people that verbally abuse, so that no one sees the scars on their partner, so no one knows they batter their partners. Not acceptable, some people their own self esteem is so poor that the only way they feel better is to abuse( males and females abuse, some people only think men abuse and that is not true). I hope your friend's situation improves, and if she is in trouble physically, tell her to get the police involved as it could save her life or her children, domestic violence is a serious matter.

Answer 8

They say that sticks and stones wont brake your bones, but I think that verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse, but when you are getting both, it is time to act and do something about it, don't wait till things get out of hand.

Answer 9

I think that verbal abuse is worst. Time will heal physical wounds but emotional wounds are very deep within. And yes verbal abuse can turn into physical abuse if nothing is done prevented.

Answer 10

Physical abuse hurts your body but Verbal abuse hurts your soul. They`re each as bad as the other.