My ex husband want me to drive halfway to drop off the kids to him on his weekends. and he moved over 100 miles away, and he said it is my responabilty to do that. he is the one that moved.
2007-03-12 06:18:57 · 14 answers · asked by roxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask your lawyer, he is probably right.
2007-03-12 06:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it's in your separation agreement that you are to drive the kids, then it is your ex husband's responsibility.
If you ex shares custody of the children through a court order, then he is the one that has to pick up the kids and drop off HIS kids for a visitation weekend.
If he wants to exercise his rights as a parent, then he will come and get his kids.
It is NOT your responsibility to drive the kids to see their father.
You could drive your kids to see their father if you wish to.
I work in a law firm and deal with family matters, so unless it is in an agreement somewhere or ordered by the court, it is your ex husband's responsibility.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 13:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by doodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is happening to me right now but my husband moved over 300 miles away and my daughter is only 6 months old. I don't know what we are going to do.
2007-03-12 13:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by specklesanne_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with you meeting him half way. Unless you are trying to show him that you have the power, what is the problem? Remember, it is no longer about you or him, it is about the kids. Kids need their fathers just as much as their mothers. If you use the excuse that it puts you out, imagine being a father that wants to be with his children every day but is told he can see them every other week end. That is being put out!
2007-03-12 13:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by mskman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Review your custody agreement. My husband's decree from his ex states that if one parent moves more than 100 miles away, they meet halfway.
2007-03-12 13:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your responsibility unless the court ordered it. If he has visitation, and you custody, then it is his responsiblity to make the accomodations to get to his children. If you are trying to save the arguing for the sake of the children, well then if you are able, and can afford to, then it wouldn't hurt. However if it is a financial burden, or is difficult, it is not your responsiblity. If he wants to see his children he will make the effort (unless your court orders say you are obligated).
2007-03-12 13:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be simpler for you to drive them one way, and him to drive them the other?
It may not be the best arrangement, but for your kids sake, is it THAT big of a deal?
Please don't be one of those bitter, horrible ex-wives that make visiting his kids miserable. Work with him. Your kids will be better for it.
2007-03-12 13:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it was his choice to move and not your burden to carry, if you goto court, the system will tell you you have to meet halfway. So your EX is right..
2007-03-12 14:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your responsibility to drive them to see their father. However, you may want to ask him his reasons for meeting you half way. Based on his answer you should decide what your able to do and what's in the best interest for the children.
2007-03-12 13:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by gretch3d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can inform ur lawyer and ask him his opionion
if their is nothing about moving on ur decree
take him to court again
they courts favor those who act first
and it will show that u care about ur kids seeing their father so it might help the judge take ur side and make ur ex come the full way
2007-03-12 15:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually it is the non custodial parents responsibility to get the kids. if he wanted to see them bad enough he would pick them up.it would be good to compromise for the kids sake. they probably want to see thier dad and whats the big deal to drive 50 miles for your kids.
2007-03-12 13:46:01 · answer #11 · answered by Tommy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋