I recently moved out and filed for divorce. I have 2 kids 2 and 3-1/2. I met this guy who is also divorced as of july and has a 2-1/2 yr old. We clicked right away. We really like each other a lot. He understands everything i'm going through b/c he went through the same thing. I am falling for him, he's falling for me. We have an amazing time together whenever we're together. Our kids get along, we get along with eachothers kids. Is it too soon to be getting into something? Everything feels right, but none of my friends have gotten a divorce and my family is all old fashioned so i'm not really sure what to do. Is it too soon to be together for family stuff. Need Advice! Thanks!
2007-03-12 06:16:20 · 8 answers · asked by Leslie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think that you should put the breaks on sista! you arent even divorced yet. get to know this person much better, so you don't make the same mistake twice. just let him be your friend.
2007-03-12 06:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you found some one he seems nice but id still take things slow and not rush your feelings because you don't want another divorce you want it to last if you marry again but don't be in a hurry to remarry but date take the kids fun places and get a babysitter once in awhile so you two can date go some where nice take kids to a fair to ride rides or zoo and picnics when its warm id wait till divorce is final
2007-03-12 13:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLOW DOWN!
You are not even divorced yet.
Do yourself a favor and back off for a while.
If you do not take some time to get divorced and establish your single personality again you are doomed to fall out with this guy too.
This is not fair to you him or your kids, especially your kids.
I don't know why you left the husband but I do know that I would be VERY upset if you were trying to integrate my family into some other guy's BEFORE we were divorced.
This is trouble looking for a place to happen.
You need to step back and SLOW DOWN.
You are not even out of one marriage and are looking for another one. A recipe for unhappiness and disaster.
2007-03-12 13:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a comfort zone and it may be something real. Go with your gut, but don't rush into anything. Keep your kids out of it....stay purely platonic in front of the kids and don't spend too much time together with the kids. If for some reason it doesn't work out, the kids won't be devastated again. Good luck, but put your kids first.
2007-03-12 13:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i read recently in ur question u both need time lots of it to know if ure healed from the past to ensure hes not on the rebound also stop the rush and dont sleep pliz wait that helps bring alot into perspective the bed muddles ur thinkin and emotions once bitten twice shy take ur time if hes serious he aint going nowhere
2007-03-12 13:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I say; if you guys are truly happy etc, then go for it! If your family hasn't been in your shoes or your other friends haven't been either; it's harder for them to be ok with it because of that reason. You are with him; not them =) I'd warm them up to the idea of meeting him etc and see how they are. And then give them time to think it over. When they see how happy you are and it's for good reasons, it may not be as bad as you think =)
2007-03-12 13:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't rush anything. Maybe you guys can hang out as friends and go from there.
2007-03-12 13:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait until divorce decree ink is dry.
2007-03-12 13:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋