i am a blonde and i am always called dumb and i hate it. my mom nad dad never seem proud of me and my grades. i will make a 100 in some calss and my dad says thats good but those grades arent. i am the co-captian of my cheerleading squad and my dad says i need to work on my layouts and my stunts even though my coach says it perfect.
2007-03-12 06:13:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well some parents are very hard to please........i remember one year i got straight As and my mom was just like oh thats good.......you can never do enough to please your parents...just do what you can to get good grades and continue in your cheerleading...........if this really bothers you try letting them know that you feel like they arent proud of you and that nothing you do is good enough..........good luck
2007-03-12 06:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by first time mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am having a problem with the part that says that you get 100 in a class and your dad says "thats good but those grades aren't". I am guessing that you mean that some of the other grades that you get are lower and he wants to see you get those up higher too. Right?
Your parents mean well honey, it's just that as us old people get older we forget what it was like at your age. There is a lot of stress in school today, not only with class, but homework, extra activities, peer pressure and the list goes on. Then you have us 'old people' that are constantly trying to re-live our childhood in our kids!
Your probably doing just fine sweety, your coach is content, your teachers are or they would be on the phone complaining, and besides that if you DIDN'T care you wouldn't be asking for help!!
That tells me you are a leveled headed blonde--not a dumb one!!
Okay--now here comes the advice from the older generation.......hang on, but I guarantee it will help.
Like I said, we don't realize a lot of things and sometimes we need to be told about it.
Here is what my granddaughter did to my daughter and son-in-law (It made a grandma proud).
She said "I need to talk to you guys, it's really important".
Of course they thought it was something REALLY bad!!
Then she told them that she was worried because some of her grades were down, her coach told her she was doing great on the vollyball team--but she didn't think she was and didn't know what to do about it, and that she felt guilty because she though she should be doing more to help around the house but didn't know how or what she should do. She needed 'their' advice!!!
My daughter said that they both sat there with their mouths hanging open because they didn't realize that she was thinking and worrying about so many things.
So, they offered to help her get rid of some of the stress, told her how great she was playing vollyball and that the coach would be complaining if she wasn't and made a list of things she could do at home to help out -when she had the time.
It's only a suggestion honey, but I think you can handle it, you get the idea! Good Luck oh, by the way-------I had four dumb blondes and they all graduated from college with high honors!! So when someone tells you that -your a dumb blond- just tell them "We will see in 10 years when we check our incomes!!!!
2007-03-12 13:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by mom4gramma8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah some parents are just really hard to please. my parents are always reallly proud of me, but that doesnt help u. anyways, try getting into some more activitse (but not a lot and only if you'll enjoy them). ok, so u got a 100 in one class, but what about the others? try to keep all ur grades at the same pace, even if that means bringing it down to a 90. it would look better if all ur grades were 90's than if u had one 100 and all the rest were low 80's. u feelin me? lol, well u get the picture. hope this helps!
P.S. CHEERLEADING ROCKS!!!
2007-03-12 13:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by rachel13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are just like that - they want perfection in everything, and they think that they are helping you by pointing out what you can do better. They don't want you to stop and relax and congratulate yourself because after school, life's just not like that - no matter what you do, or how well you do it, it's always on to the next thing.
If you want to get recognition for grades, ask your parents to establish a reward system. Or, if you are struggling a little in one class, tell them that you need a tutor. For your cheerleading, if your dad doesn't think your stunts are perfect, don't get defensive. Agree, and ask him to get you a private coach to help you because you cannot reach the next level on your own. (I bet that the finances will shut them up).
I'll bet that your parents are very very proud of you. They are just perfectionists and cannot help themselves. Find out where you are in your class rank and you can always quip back that there are only XX blondes in the top XX% of my class and I'm one of them!
2007-03-12 13:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your parents don't realize that it's not that easy to make such good grades. They may comment on what needs improvement because they think they are giving you an opinion that is supposed to help you. But what's missing is the positive comments that you are a high-achieving kid. It's hard to hint to them that you need comments like that so maybe it's better to just ask them straight-out if they are proud of you. Tell them you work hard but you need some positive comments once in awhile. Tell them sometime when they are listening to you, not while they are busy. See what they say. Maybe they won't act like they're paying attention at first but you'll probably hear more positive comments in the future.
2007-03-16 08:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many parents are very pressuring - they want the best for their children and they want their children to feel encouraged.
However, sometimes this so-called encouragement can actually make the child feel even worse than before, without the parent intending to make the child feel that way.
Your parents want you to have good grades so that you will be successful in life and it isn't a crime to want that for your child. They may feel that if they pressure you, you will try harder to succeed. But all of this pressure seems to be 'rubbing off the wrong way' on you.
What you need to do is set your own goals. For example, your parents may expect straight A's, but only you know what you are capable of. If you're struggling in some classes, don't hesitate to ask for help. You seem hungry for your parents' praise, and you may have to earn it.
But most of all, earn those grades for yourself, not your parents.
2007-03-12 14:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Laurie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to follow your own heart and do your best. If your parents are so stunted and calloused in their views that they don't appreciate you and your efforts, there's nothing you can do about it, unfortunately. It's their problem, something they will have to deal with later if they lose your love and respect with their unrealistic high standards and demands.
2007-03-12 14:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to make em more proud... graduate, get accepted to a good college, and grow up to be the best that you can be knowing you gave it 110%!!
2007-03-12 13:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your parnets are a little harsh on you. they should be proud of you for being involved with school and trying your best in classes.
2007-03-12 14:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your parents and talk about it with them. Tell them to listen to what you have to say
2007-03-12 13:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by bee bee boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋