My relationship ended this weekend after 3 years. We tried everything to fix it but nothing worked.
2007-03-12 05:48:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm here if you need to talk sometime. Stay strong. Hug your dog for me.
2007-03-12 11:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You and I could hook up and we can explore your question together. : )
No but seriously, i know it hurts like hell to end a relationship after three years. Been there, done that. Honest truth is that there is not going to be anything fun for you for a while. You've just had the other half of you ripped away and that's gonna take some time to heal. It sucks that we're all so far away from each other or we'd all come over and comfort you. But in time, though it's hard to think about it right now, the pain will fade to a minimum and you will be able to enjoy life again. For now, spend quality time with friends, even if you don't want to talk. And if I can pass on to you a wonderful saying that a friend once said to me when I needed it most....
"If you aren't going to kill yourself, you have to go on."
Hang in there baby. We're all rootin' for ya!
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2007-03-12 13:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by kjv_gods_word 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a life out there as a single...and it is a great life. You do not need a mate to prove to the word you are worthy of love. You do not need a mate to prove to the world you attractive. In fact, the happiest people I know, across the board, are single. They are responsible to themselves only. They do not argue day and night, sex is certainly easy to find, and good sex is out there for a night. It is just how you approach others...be open, be connective, and you will be rewarded. There is a world of lonely people out there waiting to fill your time. Don't be so short sighted...you will revel in your singleness soon enough. And I don't blame you. Dump the straight attitude that only married people are happy people..nonsense! In this day and age, many, many people choose to be single...men, women...you name it, the idea of a mate is stale. The key to your question lies in "we tried everything to fix it." Why? If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Why try to force an archaic notion upon yourself. Look at the great sides of being single..soon enough, you will be much happier than in a bad relationship. Good luck.
2007-03-12 13:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great!!!
Believe me dude, a lot of attached people would love to be in your shoes!
- No guilt after a random date... Not to mention, no need to explain why you dated.
- You can basically do whatever you want without nagging thoughts at the back of your mind
- More savings! Less outdoor activities and extra expenses.
- You can finally balance your checkbook!
- You can finally stick to your study schedule
- You can walk around and give a suggestive smile to anyone..
- No need to explain why you do things your way and why you didn't do a lot of stuff.... And you can hang out with all those friends that you rarely had time for while you were still attached...
Both being single and being attached have their own set of advantages and disadvantages... Personally, I wish I could shift gears every couple of years or so... But I guess that's why we take solitary vacations every now and then.
After the mourning season... Have a blast!!
2007-03-12 13:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Same thing happened to me. I was really scared at first, but it ended up working out. After a while, I loved not being accountable to anyone except to myself and my dog Max. Plus, I had A LOT of fun...it was like a vacation.
When I was ready for another relationship, boom, it happened.
Both have their positive sides. Take the time to learn about yourself...what worked and what didn't, so you can go into your next relationship ready and improved.
2007-03-12 12:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by cardinalboy97 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off take some time to enjoy it - after three years you need a rest. Frankly having read your questions and answers for a year now I think highly of you and imagine that you are not going to have any trouble in life. The only problem I see is that you might not take enough time off to heal and relax before someone tries to create a relationship with you.
Give yourself the time - you deserve it Craven!
2007-03-12 13:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being single sucks, but remember, just because you're hurting and single does not mean it is time to go find someone to fill that void again. There's nothing fun about being single right away, but I suspect if you get back into the routine of living your life solely for you, you will find happiness again. Sorry honey, and good luck!
2007-03-12 12:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by greenbuddha03 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain. Mine ended about 3 weeks ago. I still ache. There are good aspects to being single, You don't have to share anything. You can eat what you like. You get the chance to go out and meet new guys. There are good and bad aspects. For the next few weeks, it's going to be tough though. Hang in there, it will be that in the long run, you will find someone who is better for you than your ex was.
2007-03-12 12:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by ron s 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know where you're at... after my 4 year relationship ended I was broken too. But believe me, there's a world out there thats begging to be met. Time is yours, take it to the fullest, meet people, hang out with friends, go places.
All oportunities are open for you, it's up to you to take them.
Take some time to wallow or whatever if you want... but then you gotta get out there. Discover life again.
2007-03-12 12:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by namojaro 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should stay single for a while. Now that you have your total own space and control, drama free environment, take advantage of it and explore.
Unless you are dying for another relationship, otherwise this is really the time to recoop on your own.
2007-03-12 14:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that it didn't work out, Craven. Just relax, give yourself a little time to mourn, and I bet that a special guy is out there waiting for you!
2007-03-12 14:55:12 · answer #11 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋