How do i build up my self confidence?

Question

I have no self confidence at school or anywhere but especially at school. When teachers ask me questions i jst freeze and say i dont know because i dont want to say anything. What can i do to build my confidence?

Answer 1

Self-confidence is the knowledge that you can do things, that you're a capable person. It's earned by doing things and giving yourself credit for having done so. Two things...

- Review your personal history and make a long list of everything you've accomplished in your life, small or large...write it all down. Then GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT. That's important. No matter what, you have to say to yourself, "Yes, that was cool..."

- Prepare, prepare, prepare. If you do your homework, then you will be confident that you're as ready as anybody to answer the questions!

You can do it!

Answer 2

Something that worked for me when I was younger...

Think of someone you admire, be it the coolest person in school, a musician, sportsperson etc - someone with confidence, or someone you respect. Then when you're faced with a situation where you feel shy, pretend to yourself as hard as you can that you're that person.

Or create an imaginary 'persona', which is how you picture your ideal self to be, ie more confident, more calm, less worried about what other people think. Then force yourself to act like that person.

It sounds daft, but after a while you just get used to feeling confident, and soon you'll be wondering what you were so nervous about! Good luck, I now have more confidence than I know what to do with!

Answer 3

Self confidence (trust) is a second after doubt... I guess its not enough for you... How can I help you? How to tell you its simple like choice between telling yes or no. Lets try this way... As you can understand shyness leads to reaction you dont want to see in almost every ocasion when you freeze... so why not choose doing something and to learn that life is hazardous and you must bear with reaction... Dont warry to much about reaction, just keep care about telling what you want to say... sometimes the answer is wrong because you are mistaken, but sometimes you are totaly wright and you can gain reward. Learn that keeping too much shy means you will miss many beauty chances in your life... Fight for your chances... and shine :)

Answer 4

well theres many things to here,but i got to say the firs thing is 2 start lookin at urself in a positive light..be confident in the way u dress n do things..then about class,ur problem is u cant answer a q rite? well next time u get asked a q,just say wtv u think is it,or make a good guess..if u get it wrong,then u'll know that its ok 2 get it wrong n the world shall not end..if u get it right then that'll boost ur confidence..basically since thats ur problem so do this a few times n then u'l know wat to do from there..if its self confidence at other places,just put on a confident cool face and strut out there eventhough inside u feel like running away as fast as u can..if ur overdoin things ur friends will let u know so dont worry..remember 2 smile alot when talkin 2 some1 and after a while doin this u'l know wat 2 do by urself....hope i helped ya..

Answer 5

Everything at first is hard but all comes to first, isn't it? A well prepared person or students can never go wrong. You have to exert more effort in developing your study habits and by being friendly to people. If you plan and prepare yourself for every day activities you'll have or do your homework properly and get more knowledge then you won't be bothered when somebody ask you questions because you will exude self confidence in answering those thrown questions. Life goes through every steps and when you gain more experiences and wisdom, you'll grow maturely and will be able to handle yourself.

Answer 6

My daughter had the same problem, but when she was old enough she got a saturday job in a clothes shop, and after a couple of months her confidence began to shine through.
You do not say how old you are, are you at a age where you could do this?

Answer 7

Try not to be too bothered about other peoples opinions of you, your peers may seem like the most important people in the world right now but once you've finished school you probably wont see most of them again!

Learn to see the funny side of things, be the first to laugh at yourself if you've said something silly/stupid. And if others laugh at you, laugh with them.

Answer 8

Most people are too wrapped up in their own lives to notice what your doing, next time you do somethingg and feel a bit silly, like tripping over or something see if you can see any one that noticed, you probably can't. Oh yeah and if you do somethin' really embarrassing just laugh at yourself cause that always goes down better than people who take it to seriously!

Answer 9

Just try to remember that everyone has their weak points, other students in your class probably feel just as nervous. If you are nervous you are probably quite a sensitive person, see this as one of your strong points and try to put it to good use by helping and encouraging others. The positive feedback you should recieve should really help your confidence. Smile, take a deep breath and relax. Good luck!

Answer 10

try new things, recognize what u can and can't change, set goals, take pride in your opinions and ideas.restrain from your that inner voice telling u that u can't do something. focus on your strengths not weakness's, trust yourself, its never too late to build self esteem and start loving yourself.