I was suffering from a paralysis after an accident during college for ten years. Six years ago I recovered. Since then I restarted my career. Took up software programming and now am working as a software developer. I also discovered a passion for ART. I love making portraits. I am fascinated by the beauty in this world. I have made quite a few portraits. Many of my portraits are of pretty girls. This has complicated my life. I like pretty faces. I am of ordinary looks. My parents want me to get married. I am not particular about marriage. I like dancing and going to the movies and making portraits with pretty girls. I am always nice to all of them as I am aware that they are much younger than me. No one knows how old I am as I don't look very old. people say that i look 25 but am 35. Now my parents want me to get married to a girl who is more my age. Its difficult to get a pretty girl when you are 35. And she looks like an aunt. Shes actually 33. What should I do. Should I say no?
2007-03-12 05:39:11 · 35 answers · asked by Ravi S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find you some young chick about mid 20s
2007-03-12 05:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by rives 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well your parents have the right to think about your future. You are 35 and should realize that you cannot stay like that forever. At some point of time you will die for a companion. You can ask your parents to wait for a while untill you are totally prepared for marraige. And do marry a girl of your choice. But don't ever make your parents feel that you are ignoring them. They are concerned about your future. They just don't want you to be a loner at the end. With all due respects to them, just tell them to have some patience.
And about this aunty you are talking about (33 years or some), if you don't like her don't marry her. But remember, character, virutes, attitude, matter more than looks.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-12 08:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you're ready to get married. You sound like you missed out on a lot of your life, and now you're just enjoying finding yourself. I don't think you would make a very good husband until your heart is in it, and it would be wrong to marry someone, just because your parents say you must when you don't intend on being a good husband.
I would tell them to give you some time. You are still adjusting from a big life change. These days, 35 is not very old. You still have time to find a woman you like and settle down. In the meantime, just enjoy being yourself.
2007-03-12 05:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For someone who suffers so tremendously like you might look for different things in life. Not that you are different, but you see life and cherish it in different way. From your description, you said you are not particular to marriage, maybe this is the main reason, you are not ready for marriage.
marriage is more complicated then a pretty face. An ordinary women might be full of love, and care for you, which you may not get from a pretty face girl. Love is not about pretty face only, it is many aspects, about how to solve conflicts, living together, balancing career and families, havind kides, so many issues involved.
If you want to get married, you need to get to know her better, the more you get to know her, maybe look is not an issue for you. I guess, you might like someone who amphasize your past, who understand you, and give you love to compensate the pain you have been through, and someone who will share the future and complete your dream.
2007-03-12 15:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have more issues than whether or not you should marry. You are 35 and feeling pressure from your parents to make a marriage decision?? There are many beautiful women that are in their 30's.
I do not think you are ready for marriage if you still can't cut the cord.
2007-03-12 05:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by jtaylor1993 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband also looks 10 years younger than he is. He was 42 and I was 33 when we met 2 years ago. We both had been looking for the RIGHT person for many years. We were engaged 3 months after we started dating.
DON'T SETTLE.
2007-03-12 05:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Amy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i become engaged whilst i become 24 and married whilst i become 26 Our wedding ceremony colorations have been a easy peach and chocolate brown We each had our brothers as witnesses (2 complete), it become a very small wedding ceremony (14 human beings have been there alongside with us and our reverend) Our reception become held a month after our wedding ceremony, and we did no longer have assigned seating, maximum folk did no longer take a seat, it become a dinner party We had a small chocolate cake and then a type of cakes for persons to compliment, i think of there have been 5 diverse possibilities We went to Maui for 2 weeks We have been given married in Gleneden sea coast, OR, a tiny city on the coast, only outdoors of Lincoln city
2016-11-24 22:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by farlow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulation on your recovery! You sound not to be ready for marriage. Continue doing what you enjoy and let your parents know that you will get married when you are ready and when you find the right girl, pretty face or not. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 07:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when to marry. When you meet that pretty face young lady that will make you laugh and have all passion for you and you for her. Be patient! Sharing your life with someone you love and love you is a blessing & gift. You will then know that you're complete. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 17:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ravi. Do what makes you happy. If you're happy being single and just making portrairts of pretty girls then just continue. Do not marry just because you wanted to please your parents and eventually end up miserably later in life. A lot of "what if's" questions will bug you once you start not doing what you really want at your own pace and time.
2007-03-12 05:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to know whether you want to get married or not. If you are not attracted to this woman, say no. Why are you still allowing your parents to arrange a marriage for you?
2007-03-12 05:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋