especially her parents and i don't know what to she is 13 or 14 years old and niether one of us have a way or the money for doctor vistits and we are scared? what should i do?
2007-03-12 05:36:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First things first, if a 13 or 14 year old girl is pregnant then obviously she did something wrong. And you can never correct a wrong with another wrong.
There is no way she can "hide" being pregnant from anyone, especially from her own parents. What is she going to say when they ask her if she's pregnant? "No, I just swallowed a melon."
Hiding a mistake will only result to more damage. Tell her to take responsibility and to start thinking for herself and her baby. The only ones that can really support her now are her parents.
Tell her you'll be there for her every step of the way. Be there when she talks to her parents. Tell her there will be consequences and she needs to face those consequences one way or another and she might as well take them gracefully. Hold her hand if you need to. Do not interrupt their conversation if possible because it will be very sensitive for her and her parents. Besides, her parents would want to feel like you are respecting them and that you are not a bad influence on her.
Make sure she tells her parents that she is coming to them for support and understanding. Also, advice her that it will be wise to admit her mistake right off the bat. This way, it will disarm her parents from attacking her.
I wish you both the best. I hope it all works out.
2007-03-12 06:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to tell her parents. they are going to find out anyway. they wont be happy about it, No but they will get used to the idea and eventually except it.. 13 years old wow!!!! I can really see why your friend is scared. I was 16 and that was too young when I had my first child. She needs to get a doctors care. thats really important. If she thought she was old enough to have sex at age 13 then she really needs to take the responsibiaty of being old enough to Tell her parents. Right now shes dealing with this problem alone and confiding in her friend. She needs to have her familys suport to help her . This is big. she cant go through it alone. and yes, her parents will be very upset, I suspect. but, once the cats out of the bag, she will feel much better.
2007-03-12 13:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...well is there any trusted adult in her family or yours, that you guys would trust to tell this to? The first thing she needs to do, is go to a Planned Parenthood clinic, or something similar, where she can get guidance and care for, I believe they will give her guidance and attendance with or without health insurance or money. She needs to decide what she wants to do, and the guy that got her pregnant needs to be informed, because whether or not he wants to be a part of the baby's life, by law he has to help her economically. I know you guys are scared, especially because you're soo young, I would tell you what the hell she was thinking having sex so young, but it's kind of late to judge. First is she 100% she's pregnant, only way to know is by going to a doctor, and getting tested there, at-home pregnancy tests are not always accurate. After that's cleared off, you guys need to go to an adult. I know this is difficult for you, because you don't want to betray your friend by telling an adult, but it's the only way you can really help her.
2007-03-13 04:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell someone NOW. My cousin hid both of her pregnancies until the day she went into labor. She didn't have any medical care at all through out her pregnancies, and in all honesty is luck that her first child survived.
She's scared, so she needs a lending hand. This is where you come in. She obviously trusts you because she told you she was expecting. Hold her hand, tell her that everything is going to be fine, but she needs to tell her mother. Be with her when she tells her. Make sure she knows that she has your support. If she refuses to tell, the only other thing to do is tell someone yourself. She is young, which means she's going to need medical attention through out her pregnancy.
2007-03-12 14:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by insomniacprincess2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she should of thought about that before she fooled around, she just threw away her teenage years and now has to go into adulthood.
You have to go to her parents, I'm sure they will be pissed and very upset but they are the only ones that can help her right now.
2007-03-12 12:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by Light Yagami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'll be frank with you (or her). This is the time where she needs to be mature. She's been "mature" enough to have sex then she needs to step up and tell her parents. She needs to see a doctor so she can make sure the baby and her are healthy. I'm serious... step up!
2007-03-12 13:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you go to a guidance counselor? Some trusted adult needs to be told because your friends health is a major concern. She needs to get proper care. A guidance counselor may be able to help with telling her parents as well.
This is not going to go away and your friend needs your help. Please be smart enough to tell a trusted adult they will be able to help you get the right advise and care for your friend.
2007-03-12 12:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Momma K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may as well get it over with and tell her parents straight away as they will find out eventually. The sooner they know, the sooner they can start working out what to do next!
2007-03-12 12:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to tell her parents know. Do not do anything
without talking to an adult. Her parents are the best
people to turn to for help.
2007-03-12 13:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. This is NOT your problem. Just don't let her leave the baby in a dumpster somewhere. Be there for her, but don't let the stresses of a friend get to you. Let it be a lesson for you. If your'e too young to have a baby, you're too young to have sex. and 13 is too damn young.
2007-03-12 13:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by kikumatsu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋