My ex-bf moved out 18 mos ago. He left a lot of stuff (clothes, personal pics, computer parts, CDs/DVDs), etc. I asked him many times to come get the stuff and, of course, he never did. Now, some stuff has been intergrated into my own belongings (DVDs, computer components) and frankly, I can't remember everything that's his or mine or what. He said that he wants to come over and look around to reclaim his stuff. No way I'm letting him poke around my apartment to see what he wants back! I'm more than happy to box up his personal items and drop them off to him. Everything else, I feel has been abandoned. I have been storing his stuff free of charge for 18 mos. Is there a legal time limit to this? I called the court and they said to call a lawyer. I don't have a lawyer and can't afford one. Anyone have experience with this? I'm in Massachusetts by the way. Thanks!
2007-03-12 05:34:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Box up his stuff & mail it to him "Certified Mail". That way he'll have to sign for it & won't be able to say that he never got anything.
2007-03-12 05:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by lovemy2babies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up what you believe to be his. Set it outside on the porch in a protected area..
Send him a certified letter, return receipt requested, giving him a number of days (7 days, 14 days - whatever) to remove the items or you will call the Salvation Army or someone.
Do not let him in your house to look around. If he picks up his stuff and then says not everything is there, then he can take you to small claims court and prove that you still have some of his stuff. Let him bear the cost - not you.
Frankly, he wouldn't stand a chance in court because he has abandoned his stuff. But to clear the air between you, I would make an effort to box up what you think is his and notify him you are about to give it all away if he doesn't pick it up.
2007-03-12 05:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, pack his stuff up, and if you forget what exactly was his, oh well, his loss, and his fault for leaving it there for so long.
Once you have it packed up, then ask him to meet you somewhere and give it to him. If its a lot of stuff, then ask friends to help. Have someone else there, just in case something happens or he tries something. Since its been 18 months, he lost all rights to his property. Possession is 9/10th's of the law, so if its been in your possession for 18 months, you could have sold it. The fact that you didn't throw it away and are willing to give it back is great on your part, however, he has no rights to complain if a dvd or two is missing.
I would not let him in your place though, its none if his business to see what you have left.
Oh, to be dirty, you could get a few pics of other guys, and put in with his stuff, or get gay magazines and put in there as well, that way he can either see pics of your "other guy", or you could just give him something he might be wanting, a gay lover.
2007-03-12 05:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in the clear. Just box up his stuff and give him what you know is his. If you interfered with him coming to get his stuff in that 18 mnth period you may have a problem, otherwise I believe any judge would consider the stuff abondoned if he made no effort to get the stuff. I don't know how they would handle it if you told the court that you still have his stuff and are using it though. They may require you to give it back, but you may then be able to counter for storage fees. Good luck with that mess.
2007-03-12 05:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The property is considered abandoned. You have given your ex more than ample time and opportunities to get his property. Because of this, HE would need to contact his lawyer in an attempt to regain possession. If he takes you to small claims court, you can present a bill to him for storage fees. And of course you can charge as much as you want to for storage fees.
2007-03-12 05:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack it up and send him everything that you feel actually belonged to him at one time.
Send along a note saying that you really could have legally dumped all of his crap months ago but thought you would do the Christian thing instead and send his stuff back to him.:)
But - Make an inventory of everything you send him for yourself and be certain that you send his stuff to him so that you have a receipt of him actually receiving it.f.
2007-03-12 05:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually after repeated requests to come get his stuff, after 18 months, its considered abandoned. Tell him you donated all of it to Good Will or similar charity, goodbye.
2007-03-12 05:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what tell him that it has been a long time and i dont wont u to poke around my apartment and maybe take some of my things soyou are going to have to buy more stuff im sorry your just sool **** out of luck
2007-03-12 05:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Bre Bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have 3 or 4 of your male friends come over. Then have him come over and get his stuff. You'll see how nice he becomes.
I once had a girlfriend throw all my stuff away. Please don't do that.
2007-03-12 05:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by Matt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. His failure to make arrangements "In a timely manner" Is all you need.
2007-03-12 05:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋