OK, here's the situation. I
've noticed that everytime I leave for work my boyfriend looks at naked pictures of girls on the internet. It's not so much porn or videos but just naked girls posing different ways nude and exposing their you know what.
I accidentally came across it in the history files once and now I check all the time and EVERY single time I'm away he looks at this stuff. I don't think it's lack of sex in our life....for example, we'll have had sex and the same day once I leave for work he looks at the naked pictures.
What does this mean? I brought it up once a few weeks ago by making a joke and he just laughed it off and it never got brought back up again. This bothers me but I don't know whether to make an issue of it or just pretend that I don't know what he's doing at let it go cause apparently most guys look at some form of porn. Please let me know why he might be doing this and what I can do about it...
2007-03-12 05:31:05 · 14 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been with my husband for 10 years, and he loves looking at t&a (****&***) It's natural for men to want to look at other women naked. My husband looks at it too, but I look at it with him.Try that.Maybe it will be a turn on for him, and you too. Don't be insecure, you know that you sleep with him every night, so don't let it bother you. As long as he doesn't touch another woman. That would be crossing a line.
2007-03-18 17:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by amazonwoman2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just have a very keen interest in sex, which has several aspects. There's the doing it, which you seem to be okay with. But there's also the thinking and daydreaming about it, and the talking about it with friends, and the watching pictures that remind him of it.
With all due respect to exodus, I don't think a casserole is going to get him away from naked blondes on the internet. Maybe, though, you could engage his interest in sex in other ways. Do you ever talk to him about sex? Maybe a titillating little flirtation in public to keep his mind where it belongs -- fantasizing about you, not some pixelated hussy on a .xxx site?
(He's probably not going to talk to you about his porn, since he's embarrassed about the habit. But he will participate with you in sex.)
Foremost, don't think about how you going to change him. Think about how you're going to satisfy him.
2007-03-13 00:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by steeeeverino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I can tell you it has nothing to do with you. We genetically disposed to look at women clothed or naked. Looking at stuff on the net is healthy because its detachment, we are not in love with those girls just having a purve which we love to do. Look at it this way, girls look at Brad Pitt etc in their mags and oogle over them, I know he isn't naked but its the same for us.
Just be glad he's looking at women and keep your sex life spicy!
Good Luck
2007-03-20 00:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by cooljaysyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's not doing this because he doesn't love you. He loves you dearly. Guys look at porn on the net from very childish reasons.
The way to tackle this is long-term.
Make him understand he has only one woman in his life, just like you have only one man. How to do this?
Do things together that demand him to give his personality actively.
For instance: making dinner together. doing sports (jogging, walks, etc'...) together.
Activities you do together like watching movies or going out to eat don't do any damage, but don't help this situation either. Make him contribute actively to your relationship. With actions (not money. actions). If he already is, take the actions places he hasn't seen them.
He doesn't have to like doing these things, but he has to like doing them with you. Don't take him shopping for your stuff unless you're positive he likes it.
Over time, you will see less 'surprises' on your browsers history. This can take months, but don't give up. Let at least 4 months to pass before seeing first results.
Good luck
2007-03-12 17:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same issue with my boyfriend and i think we came into an agreement. if it bothers you don't just joke on it but tell him straight out how you feel. i gave him a rule on it. when he wants to watch that, let me know first and I'll see and sometimes I have to be there with him. i let him do this because we do have lack of sex. even though, that shouldn't be a problem, suggestion--(either he is satisfied with you or he can move on). hopefully you can decide what to do. let me know what was your conclusion.
2007-03-20 03:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kevinemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Men" will always be boys. Looking at boobs is still fun even when we grow up. It is not a lack of sex or love for you. It is just looking at boobs and liking it. It is much the same reason for WWE wrestling and soap operas also, you know its all an act and its fake but there is still entertainment value behind it.
2007-03-20 12:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by ReckLess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just indulging in a fantasy, though I understand how you might feel bothered by this.
Honestly, if it concerns you, just talk to him about it. I doubt it's anything serious, but maybe you should bring it up with him.
2007-03-19 14:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by koreaguy12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the dude needs a job, but my husband says it's an addiction and perhaps he needs to talk to someone.
2007-03-17 00:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sharisse F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a fink u must talk bout this 2 him.its nt wise watchin porn pic though uve gt a grlfrnd.u must ask him wot does he want dat ure nt givin n dat hes seekin it 4rm de net
2007-03-18 10:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all guys look at porn. although not 24/7 every day. he could be a porn addict.
2007-03-19 18:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋