It is hard to forget really cruel words from someone you love and trust - how do you get over it ??
2007-03-12 05:30:05 · 13 answers · asked by sprtek 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, I have found in the past that people hurt others due to their own flaws and not understanding them. People treat others as they see themselves-as well as the words that come out of their mouths. It's not easy to forget cruel words. It's hard to pin point in the whys. It's coming to understanding and taking the time to listen. Which can be hard to do with another person. It's how much do you want to deal with. People do change-only when understanding the whys come. hope this helps. sandy
2007-03-12 05:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by uniquelyours19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggle with this too, as I have been placed in a situation where I am the recipient of off-colored joking, and I find no humor in it , as I perceive it as just wise cracks, and being mean spirited. I think some people like to banter back and forth like that, it is there way of entertaining themselve, they don't think they are saying mean things, it justifies their behavior, I was just kidding with you...etc. I think just don't give into to it, ignore it without flaming the situation, and say to them when you have something good to say, I will then listen. There are others that will respect me, if that does not work, maybe it's time to move on, as there are people who don't crack on their loved ones all the time. You can always say to them in response I forgive you for being a stupid jackass, and see if they like it.
2007-03-12 13:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've experiences alot of that lately and have been wondering the same thing, its really painful isnt it! What i'm beginning to realize is well despite how bad I wish it wasnt true it is, and thats that he doesnt really love me, and i'm gonna have to face it and move on, even though I really really really really dont want to. I also have been thinking that a lot of it on his part is resentment and jealousy, coming from his own feelings of inadiquacy(sp) as a man, and it sad because if he could let that part go and just be himself and accept life for what it is we could probly live together pretty happily, and have some fun. Yea right! anyways good luck Kim
2007-03-12 12:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in general are just mean spirited but you need to get past what they say and get through to them and to yourself. You need to let them know how u feel and you can't let anything they say go directly to heart. You need to, in a sense, dodge the remarks and continue on. But, I agree, it is really hard to forget these comments, but allowing these comments to hit you straight on is the worst thing that you can let happen.
2007-03-12 12:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I had a boyfriend who said really mean things to me all the time, and I left him. My current one has said mean things maybe 3 times in the last 2 years and hasn't since I told him how much it hurts me, and if he respects me could he not call me names no matter how much I piss him off?
2007-03-12 12:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by berniehallcharlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break it to ya but maybe it's time for u to move on. I know u love him but no one has to take verbal lashings from anyone. the tongue is one of the most lethal weapons on the planet. Just something to think about. Hope this helps...
2007-03-12 12:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure why they say mean things really..
My ex said some pretty mean things to me.. I think he said them because he was trying to hurt me..and i figure he didn't really love me..
I think if you truly love someone.. you would not say anything hurtful to them.. or you wouldn't say mean things to me.. i mean why hurt someone you love?
My current bf has never said anything mean to me..
and i don't expect him too..
my guess is you need to move on and be with someone who will respect you and treat you kindly
2007-03-12 12:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is true you do hurt the ones you love
2007-03-12 12:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Norweiginwood420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard...it tears you down inside...you sit there later and think maybe he/she is right
I dont know if you should be in thatnegative of a relationship, It has to be tearing you down!
They might loveyou but they need to think about what they are doing to you....try to talk to them about it!:)
2007-03-12 12:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they really love you they want to cut at your heart to make u feel how ur cutting at theirs i do it too and regret it later i do it to make the other feel what im feeling im ashamed to say
2007-03-12 12:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋