We used to look after my partners daughter every 3-4 weeks at the weekend. He has now changed this to every fortnight without consulting me. I am being unreasonable thinking this is unfair?
2007-03-12 05:25:55 · 11 answers · asked by sara y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to be more understanding. He will love you even more in the end.
2007-03-12 05:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live together then yes that's totally unfair! He should have discussed it with you first,after all it's your home too.I'd nip this behaviour in the bud if I was you-before he makes any more decisions that affect both of you without consulting you.
I don't think it's unreasonable however that he sees his Daughter every fortnight,but again he needed to at least run this by you-if you live together that is.
2007-03-12 18:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by munki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say that for your partner it must be very hard to see his daughter only once every 3/4 weeks. Once a fortnight is hardly a lot of time you will have to sacrifice. Parents have responsibilities which are far more important than those to their new partners so I would respectfully suggest you try to be a little more understanding.
2007-03-12 12:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by GoldieMeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being unreasonable and I would be fuming! I was in a similar situation where we had my 3 step children on Saturdays every week and then my ex changed it to Sundays without consulting me because HIS ex wanted it that way! We had a blazing row and we later divorced (not just because of that i hasten to add!)
2007-03-12 13:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The old addage applies here that "Blood is Thicker Than Water." Do not be upset that your partner gets to see his daughter more often. Make friends with her and then the three of you can share the time together.
2007-03-12 12:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should have been consulted. When he chose you as a mate he agreed to make you an equal partner in all major decisions.
2007-03-12 19:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The daughters came before you. He should spend as much time with them as he can. Frankly, your opinion doesn't matter. The fact that you say you "look after" the girls is troubling. This is not babysitting, it is his family. The question of fairness should be applied to the children, not the shack-up.
2007-03-12 12:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what makes u uncomfortable write it on a piece of paper then keep it away when ur mind is fresh wake up and read ur reasons if they sound ok and normal to u talk to ur husband about it if it sounds absurd drop the drama and love the babies they r his and urs as well atleast thats how id take it those kids are an extension of his loins unless they r nasty love them
2007-03-12 12:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it is completely fair, but you have to remember that it is their child and they will need to be apart of their childs life. If it was your kid would you want your partner to be upset thay your child was around.
2007-03-12 13:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have consulted you but it is not really a big deal.
2007-03-12 12:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋